Kajo [he/him] 🌈

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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • I think it’s a more global movement.

    When I was recruited at my university in the early 2000s, every teacher had an ftp-accessible space with an http address like myuni.edu/~myname. The more techie ones did html, the fancier ones even added css. Muggles would export html from a Word document.

    Then one day, the IT department decided to replace this with a “learning management system”. A wysiwyg platform with dozens of modules for videoconferencing courses, homework submission, online exams, and so forth.

    Except that the user (the teacher) no longer has control over his or her personal space.








  • In a recent interview, Yara El-Ghadban (Palestinian-Canadian novelist, with a PhD in anthropology) made an interesting answer to this recurring question: by asking her “do you condemn Hamas?”, the interviewer was questioning her humanity, and she didn’t have to prove or justify her humanity.

    I find this point of view interesting, because it turns the question on its head. Since the answer is obvious, what does it mean to ask this question, and why is it only asked of certain people?











  • There is no universal “line”. Every family has its own implicit rules about clothing and nudity, which vary from situation to situation.

    If she doesn’t question the rules acquired on her mother’s side (your SO doesn’t seem to be worried by her clothes), it’s because she sees you as an adult in the family, i.e. someone she trusts and who won’t sexualize her.

    If you feel uncomfortable, I think you should work on that on your side. I think these days, it must be precious for a young adult to have a safe place, where she can dress without being judged or sexualized. You shouldn’t risk taking that away from her.