Men were able to work 40 hours back then because women were relegated to unpaid domestic labor and childcare.

When women entered the workforce, these expectations were slow to change. So now, everyone gets to work 40+ hours and a few dozen more at home. And that’s the best case scenario where both partners shared the mental load. Bonus points if they have a kid which is a 24/7 job.

In a sane world, with double the people working you would expect their hours to be halved. But that will never happen so long as corporations continue to disguise the exploitation of workers as ‘feminism’.

Of course the 145 police reports don’t count. This is 145 women were talking about.

To come out of 4chan a better person, one must transcend humanity.

As someone with a chronic incurable disability, I’m tired of abled bodied people deciding for us which of our experiences count as ‘evidence’ and which do not.

People have this perception of modern medicine as an infallible cure-all that isn’t saddled with systemic discrimination and neglect of women and minorities.

It doesn’t matter how effective a medication is for a certain condition or for off label use. The only thing that matters is that that clinical trials are worth the investment to pharmaceutical companies, and the people most worth investing into are those with money and the privilege of being heard by their doctors.

The rest of us can continue screaming into the void as our symptoms are dismissed and as we are treated like unreliable witnesses to our own bodies. ‘Have you tried yoga?’ ‘You just need to lose weight.’ ‘Abdominal pain? It’s just your period.’ We are treated like we aren’t trying our hardest to live with every symptom. And then when we find something that works, we are told that ‘it’s not covered by insurance’ or ‘there is no evidence that it works’ or ‘it’s just placebo’. It’s like nothing we feel in our body is true and everything we say is treated as a drugseeking lie.

Fuck the cherry picked ‘evidence’. The system is broken and chronically ill people are left to suffer.

Yes. I’m going to cut to the point here.

You are likely conflating the phrase ‘toxic masculinity’ with ‘men’. Toxic masculinity is a systemic problem, not a gender. It’s the cultural norms we grow up with that instill poor notions of what it means to be a man. It’s the widespread shaming and dismissal of men’s mental health. It’s the normalization of anger as the only acceptable emotion for men, making it the only outlet for their grief and pain. It’s the preclusion of men from caretaking roles and the expectation of men being breadwinners, and so much more.

Men are raised by people, and people, men and women alike, in their ignorance, instill outdated ideas of masculinity in their kids uphold the expectations of their peers and elders.

The honest truth is that toxic masculinity is perpetuating an environment of hostility towards showing the need for emotional support and giving fellow men who need it.

Women receive emotional support from other women because they have been socialized to give and receive it without shame.

If you are a man, ask yourself when was the last time you were able to express emotional vulnerability with other men without feeling judged.

This isn’t an issue of ‘value in females’. It’s an issue of valuing men’s emotion vulnerability as a critical part of healthy masculinity.

No legal system is immune to miscarriages of justice. Is it better to imprison real accusers, or falsely accused offenders?

Watch parents in Oklahoma tell their kids to cry wolf every time they meet a trans person.

Your brother met someone, was immediately concerned about why he was crying, and it stuck with him weeks after never seeing him again.

That’s a wonderful display of empathy, not just some childish complaint. When we talk about how boys and socialized differently from girls, this is it. How we respond to kid’s feelings is how they perceive their own emotions. And if we cue that it is something they ought to grow out of, they will grow out of it.

Girl boring guy quirky.

I really hope he isn’t wearing that all day. Cats are sensitive creatures and even plastic chains can snag their fur and overstimulate them.

That’s where I draw the line too. It’s unnatural and people shouldn’t go into bathrooms with 1cm gaps in their doors.

Meanwhile: girls with inattentive ADHD sitting dead at the bottom of a pool meme

If you think weed should not be legalized, then you should be consistent and apply the same to alcohol and tobacco. Both of these substances do far more harm than weed with far fewer medical properties.

You obviously feel to the need to tell people they’re overreacting anytime you feel attacked, but please try to step back and realize I never said you should call them a mom. Weird how often this happens on my account with a female name.

I simply pointed out that being a pet owner alone shouldn’t preclude one from the same kind of appreciation, provided that they put in just as, if not more, effort than some mothers do. Fostering kittens is intense work, and being an animal fostering parent isn’t something to be scoffed at as a ‘silly’ title.

There are billions of moms in the world, but each one of us only have one or two. It’s not just about celebrating every mom, it’s also about acknowledging what your mom meant to you.

Fostering kittens involve getting up every 2-4 hours to feed a whole litter of cats for several weeks. Some volunteers take it upon themselves to do this for several litters a year because of animal abuse, abandonment, and neglect by shitty people.

That’s more than some deadbeat parents have ever done.

Not asking you to call them a mom, just asking you not to downplay the impact of animal care.

Tell me then, where do we turn to when doctors, one of the most trusted professions in society, are silently killing us?

Where do we turn to when every woman with serious abdominal pain gets turn away because they cannot be trusted to know what their own period feels like, only to later die from endometrial cancer or peritonitis?

Girls are 16 times less likely to be diagnosed than boys. Where do we go and get an ADHD diagnosis before the suicidal thoughts set in? What the fuck are the rest of us supposed to do if doctors take one look and conclude that she ‘just wants attention’?

The vast majority of self-diagnosed people are women and POC because they have historically been underserved and dismissed due to standards of ADHD care being exclusively modeled on boys from decades ago and systemic inequality in modern medicine leading to poorer outcomes in non-cis white males.

The ‘everyone has ADHD these days’ sentiment comes from the gatekeeping of ADHD behaviors to male stereotypes in media. Because girls are socialized differently and given less leniency for presenting the same behaviors, they are forced to mask better by internalizing their symptoms into depression and other mental health issues later on in life.

This kind of is no more than social media backlash against women coming out speaking about their experiences with systemic inequality in medicine, only to be told that this is all a social media fad in their heads. Speaking as someone who had to needlessly suffer for 3 decades before finding a (female) doctor who gave a damn about it. When I finally got medicated, I just broke down and cried. Out of relief from finding out what living with executive function and peace on my own was like, and out of bitterness that this was withheld from me and many more women out there.

So don’t ever tell self-diagnosed people they don’t know how their own body works. I’m sick and tired of hearing this argument from people who haven’t been medically gaslit to no end by doctors who don’t treat their patients like reliable witnesses to their body. This goes so much further than ADHD. I have had other severe misdiagnoses that put my life at risk because of doctors’ egos who would rather get you killed than admit they’re wrong for dismissing your symptoms.

Japanese work culture when you can’t leave until your boss does.