This is going to sound so bad, but I can’t look for someone smarter without limiting my options too much, just as I am tall for a lady in my area so can’t make taller than me a requirement.
So: smart enough to be funny, to understand the things I talk about? To understand how money works , live in the world easily, not stupid? Competent in some area, different from what I am good at? Required. Smart enough that I think “wow you are smart!” Not a consideration. I do think I assign extra ‘points’ to intelligence, it makes someone more attractive, but it’s not something I need as much as I need kindness and open mindedness, and in myself I value those qualities more too.
This is going to sound so bad, but I can’t look for someone smarter without limiting my options too much, just as I am tall for a lady in my area so can’t make taller than me a requirement.
So: smart enough to be funny, to understand the things I talk about? To understand how money works , live in the world easily, not stupid? Competent in some area, different from what I am good at? Required. Smart enough that I think “wow you are smart!” Not a consideration. I do think I assign extra ‘points’ to intelligence, it makes someone more attractive, but it’s not something I need as much as I need kindness and open mindedness, and in myself I value those qualities more too.