Serve them sausages, a Danish tradition
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To signify the end of an event, sausages are served to guests. I learned about the Danish tradition when i had an exchange student.
“The Danish way of celebrating a final event or other types of festive partying is by enjoying one of the trendiest national fast food dishes in Denmark - the “red sausage and warm bun” - evolved from the everywhere present mobile sausage charts from 1921”
When I was younger, Norwegians would often travel to Denmark and bring back bright red meat, which was not approved for sale in Norway. Now I finally realize they were just trying to make us leave.
INFO: How old are they and what is their relationship to you (sibling, coworker, friend, in-law, etc)?
Early 30s and a friend.
Do they overstay their welcome all the time, maybe not even just at your house, but other friend’s houses as well?
They still live at home and hate being there.
Play Semisonic’s “Closing Time” on repeat.
You don’t have to go home but you can’t stay here.
“Wellp, this was fun, let’s do it again soon!” Then get up and show them to the door.
“Let’s go to bed so these people can go home.”
Works especially well for brunch guests.
That’s great. I might steal this one!
I start cleaning my guns
Some great advice here. I also like this piece of verbal judo: “I have taken up too much of your time, I will let you go now. I have bored you enough with my pedantic nonsense.”
I find it annoying when people talk like this. It sounds like you forced the other person to be with you, or that you consider yourself so important that the other person would sacrifice their comfort for you.
Serve them kelp tea.
Say to your wife: “Wife, we go to bed now. The guests surely want to go home as well.”
:-)
“We’re good! We’ll just hang out here!”
I personally say in a friendly tone “I’m sorry but I have to kick you out now because I have xxx things to do.”
Add something appreciative about their visit/your meeting like “it was great to see you”, “thanks for stopping by” or something.If you are just socially spend, you could also say that. “I hate to kick you out, but I can’t people anymore today/my social capacity is spent/it was all a bit much for me today.”
People will understand if you are direct. We all have shit to do and limited resources.
Being honest and direkt is often less weird than dancing around the fact that you want them to leave.“I’m getting tired, it’s time for you to go.”
Some people are just too oblivious and need things spelled out for them. So spell it out.
just grab a broom and have it stand upside down.
Fart loudly? Call the police?
In that order.
Tell them straight up
“Alright well it was nice kicking it, but I’m gunna call it a night”
The end
Baby Shark on repeat.
But that’s how I started the party.
Well not everybody has to leave
It may help to start setting an end time. Instead of, “I can hang out at 6.” Tell them, “I can hang out from 6-8.” If they still won’t leave you might have to be firm with them. No is a complete sentence, and you don’t need to explain why.
“No”
“I’m sorry, No?”
“No”
“No what?”
“No”
“Should I leave now?”
“… … No no”
“No I shouldn’t leave?”
“No”
As an autistic person I feel like i’m over staying my welcome sometimes, the easiest way to confront me is be like “hey, great to see you but I have other stuff to do. We should do this again”
I’m not autistic but I do have a lot of fear about over staying my welcome. It has gotten to the point where I would politely ask if I over stayed or if my welcome has expired. I find that being direct is the fastest and most efficient for both parties.
Yes that can be helpful if you are the one feeling you are overstaying, a good amount of the time people are really nice and honest about things so that’s really helpful
