• bionicjoey@lemmy.ca
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    1 year ago

    My thing is that I don’t ever convert the people I do activities with into friends. I’m too focused on the activity. My brain can’t multitask like that.

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      1 year ago

      Same, I tried to go on a date to a barcade and the guy was like “are we vibing” and I was just like… uhh we’ve just played games this entire time? I feel like I still don’t know you.

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        1 year ago

        I don’t get to go on many dates, but I imagine a barcade isn’t a great first date option. That would be more for once you already know eachother right?

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          I thought so too? People and therapists always advise “try new things!” so I tried something that most people here do which are activity based dates. Most people here like want you do something with them instead of just going out to eat and actually getting to know each other.

          But yeah it’s not for me as I already imagined. To me, it also seems like something you’d do on at least like second date.