It can be low effort, passive-aggressive, insulting or derogatory towards your convictions.

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    They got me something I had no interest in and were upset I wasn’t using it. Ever hear the phrase “it’s the thought that counts”? It demonstrated zero thought into what I would actually be interested in.

    It’s like buying a teen a set of knitting needles and being surprised that they didn’t start knitting with them.

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      Well it might have been a thought about what would be good for you (to their belief), but to be upset that it didn’t just make you want to use seems a but naïve.

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      Ever hear the saying “Don’t look a gift horse into the mouth”?

      It demonstrated plenty of thought.

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        I know nothing about horses. I won’t look this gift horse in the mouth because I don’t know know what I’m looking at, but I’m also not going to be thrilled with the horse you’ve gifted me that I have no idea what to do with.

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            3 days ago

            Thanks tips.

            My point is if someone did show up at your house gifting you a horse for Christmas it would be appropriate for you to respond with “what am I supposed to do with this?” And someone telling you “it’s a nice gift, be thankful for it” would be an unreasonable response.

            It’s an example that not every gift is thoughtful just because it’s a gift.