I know there are alternatives like proton mail, tutamail, mailbox.org, etc… But what would be the issue if I create an email using my personal domain, stored in my hosting… maybe encryption? It seems that no-one even consider this option, but I am not sure why…

What would you suggest?

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    Owning a domain for yourself and having a provider send/receive email on your behalf is a common choice, and it has its own benefits such as being able to migrate to other providers easily. As long as you renew your domain properly, it should be fine. Though do note that only you would use that domain, so anyone would know it was you who sent that email.

    Owning a domain for yourself AND handling email sending/receiving can be challenging because there’s a chance your email gets filtered as spam, and the receiver doesn’t get what you sent. It’s also possible that your server goes down, and the email sent to you doesn’t arrive properly, though the email server usually try to send again a number of times before giving up.

    If you are confident about setting a server, I can personally recommend Mailcow. As long as you set up SPF, DKIM, DMARC, it should pass most spam filter including Gmail. If you don’t want to deal with the potential headache, getting a provider to send/receive emails for you is a good choice too.

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      I managed to get my mails through 95% of servers I’ve tried, and after evaluating the 5% that didn’t accept my mail, I just realized they can suck my man-tits. But maybe those 5% in your case might be recipients you value.

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        I hosted my own for a while. We could never send to gmail though and they are saddly too important.

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          That worked like a charm for me, but some strange German mall hoster demanded the blood of an unborn unicorn or something like that for it to work.

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          I’ve read this with concerning frequency, was SPF/DMARC/DKIM all in order? I also have to question if it was a matter of IP reputation, since shared hosting IP ranges are usually pretty thrashed.

          I rent mailbox services (for a custom domain) from a local ISP and don’t have problems with deliverability as such.

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            Those were in order (it was 15 years ago so i don’t recall if all existed but at least some did). Probably ip range but who knows

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    grab a personal domain, setup smtp through proton then have your local mail client archive via imap

    email is the only service i would never self-host directly.

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        email is incredibly complicated to host yourself successfully due to security, dns requirements. i have a pretty good handle on how to do it, but i havent since ~ 2015 because of the constant upkeep and challenges from the email ecosystem at large.

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          It’s not THAT bad. Certainly more complicated than before. I don’t think it requires that much upkeep. But this time around it took around 1 month to get it stable. Then I’m coasting for the time being.

          But yes, unless you have a specific use case or strong desire, dont.

          Email is so important. If you don’t have a stable way to do it and something goes down, you’re SOL and you are responsible

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          …and as solutions we have many companies who will do it all for you for $5/mo (more or less), the cost of running a basic cloud server. My time and energy in making sure my email is “always good” is worth paying $5/mo to let Fastmail handle the chore. $0.02

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      Yeah,but please don’t use Proton unless you are aware of their drawbacks and marketing lies. (I am not counting the tweet here…)

      Or go through my post history,I have explained multiple times here why proton is not an ideal choice.

      Infomaniak or mailbox org might be worth a consideration as well

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    Get your own domain. Don’t host your own.

    I’ve had the same domain on gmail, proton and now purelymail.

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    Rolling your own email is a pain. That said, I use a VPS and host my own server with domain name and site for $5/month. Setting it up was a pain, but once you get all the records right so you’re not considered spam, it works really well. That said, I haven’t done anything with webmail; I strictly use IMAP and SMTP.

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    one more reason why self hosted email just isn’t competitive with free/cheap cloud email is the client UX. Gmail is very feature rich while your self hosted email will likely run on RoundCube or SquirrelMail which are extremely barebones.

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    Hi. I used to run a mail server around ten years ago and started running it again last year.

    I have three receive mail domains and one mail domain that does both. It is /so/ much harder now.

    1. One domain that I let lapse for a few years is currently being impersonated by various servers.
    2. There are periodic and frequent attempts to login via compromised credentials
    3. Domain and IP reputation is a thing now.

    The first challenge is to find a server that will let you host email but that isn’t on a spam list. Some spam lists you can apply to get off, some you can’t.

    Then you have Microsoft. With Google you get thrown into spam. With Microsoft, your email just doesn’t make it. Their support is non existent.

    I switched servers three times and took another month to get to Microsoft hosted inboxes. And your email is useless without Microsoft due to all the businesses that use Microsoft as a mail provider

    And then if you use the mail app on iOS you quickly discover that you have to manually refresh because just on iOS, the mail app doesn’t support imap push or whatever it’s called.

    I still haven’t found a good SELF hosted solution. There are third parties you can use but I don’t want to do it. There used to be a few popular solutions but development went off and on so some distros dropped it.

    I’m still on Google and Apple calendar because I haven’t found a solution for that.

    Of course there are solutions that encompass it all, but I am running postfix and dovecot and finally got it stable so I’m not running mailcow or whatever…

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      Nextcloud is great for contacts and calendar. Try it. I recommend using the all-in-one docker. Super easy to setup.

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      A major downside is that email is not encrypted and Email usually contains very sensitive personal information.

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    there is a lot to hosting mail. Reading about it, like this book will educate you about all that’s involved.

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      So, giving that I am an “average user”, do you think it would be bad to use my Bluehost unlimited storage? I have to pay that anyway, because I have couple of personal website there…

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        If you are willing to study the subject and become advanced at it, go for it. Otherwise, use an existing mail service, possibly with your own domain, but stay away from the mail protocols and requirements.

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        Do you have Bluehost web hosting plan? In that case, Bluehost would do the most heavy lifting regarding the derliverability. Email deliverability with big hosts like that shouldn’t be a problem.

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      To give some context, the special edition of that book has a different title that hints at how very challenging it is to get it right when you host your own server.

      Typically, it’s much better to own a domain and pair it with FastMail or other reputable email provider.

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    Running a mail infrastructure properly is a complex problem. I would not recommend it for most people. There’s a reason most companies outsource it these days.

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    I’ve done this for years.

    One of the benefits is that you can always just set up Gmail to pull from Pop and send with SMTP anytime if you’re not ready to give up Gmail yet and then just turn it off when you are without the need to announce a change in email.

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    I’m basic. Been using namecheap+privateemail for years and no complaints. Mostly through the clients Thunderbird on desktop of FairMail on mobile.

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    I bought a domain name and got a web host. I set the index page to be blank and only use the web host for email. It works well. I still have gmail but try to move everything to my own domain email.

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    stored in my hosting…

    This, specifically, is the issue people are warning you about. Yes, your hosting account from Bluehost has the ability to handle email, but it’s not great. It’s really there just so the server can send admin emails and such, not support a full email architecture.

    Simplifying - part of the way spam is detected by the servers that receive an email is to check the IP address from where it came from against a list of IP addresses known to deliver spam. If it’s coming from a spam IP, the message is likely spam, so they either put it in the recipient’s spam folder or fail to deliver it entirely.

    Now, you may think you don’t need to be worried because you’re an upstanding web citizen and would never send out spam messages. However, your hosting is on a shared server, with anywhere from a handful to dozens and dozens of not hundreds of other hosting accounts, all sharing the same IP address, and they have this email ability as well. If any one of them, intentionally or unintentionally, sends out a bunch of spam messages and gets your IP address flagged, the entire server loses its reputation for some period of time. Most of the time, this is caused by people not keeping their website security up to date and their site getting infected. The malicious code then goes and sends out as many spam emails as it can before the hosting company shuts things down.

    Unfortunately, you end up having very little control over the situation.

    • You can ask your hosting provider to do something about your malicious/ incompetent neighbor, but they may or may not.

    • You can ask to be moved to a new server, but that’s just playing neighbor roulette.

    • If you are able to get your hosting provider to do something about your neighbor, the other email servers in the world are still going to distrust receiving emails from your IP address for some period of time. You can make requests to try and have your IP address unflagged, that they may or may not do.

    • Even if you do all the leg work of getting your server unflagged, one of your stupid neighbors could immediately get the server flagged again.

    So, as others have said - yes, you can use your hosting account as your email server. But considering it’s only a few bucks a month to have a dedicated email service handle it, it’s generally not worth the hassle and headache.