Mutual aid spam is becoming a problem on the Fediverse.

And to be sure, I’m not against mutual aid. What I am against is spam.

This person has not verified who she is – or even if the profile picture is hers. Additional research on her name states she is a scammer with a record of grifting. I am therefore skeptical that any donations will help anyone in need.

Folks, please be cautious with mutual aid requests. Yes, people sometimes need help. But people also lie.

@fediverse@lemmy.world

  • sircac@lemmy.world
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    12 days ago

    There are needs and needs, I refuse to help a money begger unless is a close friend which I can control how is the best I can do for him, money being the last resource. Instead I always demand for social programs and services sustained by taxes to support those in real need (survival needs) unconditionally.

    I would sleep much better if part of my tax contribution (together that of anybody in function of their resources) goes to grant the minimum for a “dignity survival” to any human being regardless of their returned contribution, with programs for reinsertion and mental support so they have the best chances to reach eventually a “dignity life”.

    And, if still they cannot but just “survive” for the rest of their lives, I still want to fund it and give them the security to do it with dignity until the very end.

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    13 days ago

    I was just offered 500$ to be someone’s friend. Of course, I refused - my friendship is worth much more than that!

    But it’s… concerning that we’ve got this sudden spike in spam.

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    12 days ago

    “Mutual aid”? Is that what scammers are calling it now? What exactly is “mutual” about this interaction?

    I don’t think there’s anything wrong with creating a community where people who are struggling financially can ask for help or plug their GoFundMe or whatever, but allowing these guys to essentially cold call individuals with DMs/Mentions is unacceptable.

  • Electric@lemmy.world
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    13 days ago

    Isn’t asthma medication pretty cheap and long lasting? From what little I know an inhaler can last many months. Also if they can’t afford that, surely they have state medical insurance to help with it? Just seems so scammy.

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      13 days ago

      depends on how often you have to use it. also, most states won’t give you insurance if you aren’t below the poverty level. if you have a full-time job, even if you’re barely making it paycheck to paycheck, you’re probably ineligible for medicaid.

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      13 days ago

      my inhaler is $70 per month with insurance. though it’s a bit different from an albuterol inhaler, mine is a dry powder steroid thing, and it has a VERY short 30 day shelf life once opened.

      was $10 last year with insurance, but of course that shit changes every year…

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      13 days ago

      Also if they can’t afford that, surely they have state medical insurance

      Ha! No, depending on the state, there are tons of barriers, means-testing, work requirements, mandated classes they might not be able to attend (due to childcare/lack of transportation), etc.

      Even after the ACA, ER visits are still all the healthcare many people get.

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    12 days ago

    I just mute all of them.

    It may be my “3rd world syndrome” but to me, someone with internet access and a social media account who post regularly, is not in poverty. More likely a spambot.

    My local beggar, in contrast, is a sincere person who tells me that he just want some cheap boxed wine or something to smoke. Refuses food or any kind of help. Cash only.

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      12 days ago

      When I was homeless, I had a cell phone. It’s pretty hard to find work without one. And I don’t know if it’s still the case, but at that time if you are on any sort of government assistance you could get a phone paid for.

      As it is really difficult to get out of poverty without one.

      That sad, I don’t hand out money on lemmy. There are folks in my community I know need help too.

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        12 days ago

        I mean, I know phones can be cheap or donated. And I also know that homeless people may have possessions that some consider “expensive”. It’s not that uncommon.

        But constant internet connection needs monthly payments that, in my very personal and particular mindset, are not really compatible with “I’m a beggar. I need help”.

        Having knowledge of the Fediverse it’s too niche for me, and the stories like “I can’t pay groceries!” almost every week are unlikely in a place where most of folks are tech workers. My spam-meter says that probably some people out there found the #mutualaid hashtag and are making some fake profiles and fake stories.

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          12 days ago

          The plans can be super cheap compared to food and housing. A pretty poor person can still have consistent Internet now.

          It’s not the affordability that makes these things almost certainly a scam, but they pretty much are almost certainly a scam anyway.

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          12 days ago

          you can find plans for $15/mo. it’s not unreasonable for homeless people today to have a cell phone. even homies in prison have tiktoks.

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          Again, the phone and the service, at least, when I was homeless in 2019, was covered along with other social services such as SNAP and Medicaid.

          And again, I completely agree about not handing money out online. Just disagreeing about homeless folks having accessibility to a phone or the internet. And Public libraries or anywhere with wifi (if you have a phone) are other options.

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      12 days ago

      Not trying to change your mind on giving money to internet grifters but having a cell phone is pretty much a basic tool of survival these days even if you’re destitute. Phones more than a couple years old are basically e-waste and cost nothing or are donated/trashed all the time. Even a WiFi only phone can be the best tool someone has to find shelter, food and get important weather updates.

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        12 days ago

        Even if it’s a recent phone, new flagship phones cost less than a month’s rent in many places. It’s not like phones are unattainable for homeless people.

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      it may be like that in the “third world”, but in western countries at least, if you don’t have a cell phone you are pretty much actively discriminated against. many government programs, not to mention utilities, require the use of a smartphone app. for example, my electric company requires one, as does my internet company. you can’t even begin service with my ISP if you don’t have an app.

      if you live in the US, you’ll find it very difficult to even find a job without a cell phone, as most unemployment programs or job listings are done through apps these days. so the first thing any homeless person needs to acquire, is internet access and social media.

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        13 days ago

        It’s not ignoring the topic. Mutual aid is an organized operation. Literally says it the link. This is not mutual aid. The topic is about “mutual aid spam” which this is not at all an example of “mutual aid”. This is just begging or panhandling or scamming.

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        13 days ago

        They might not have known what mutual aid is and you explained it very well with the first two sentences. The last sentence doesn’t serve any useful purpose if they didn’t know.

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    I blocked MutualAid-related tags months ago because there is only so much begging and sob stories that a person can take.

    I feel sorry for people who have problems and situations so desperate that they feel the best way to fix them is asking random people on the internet for money, but I just don’t know if I can trust them and I absolutely know I can’t help everyone.

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    I see a lot of people asking for mutual aid, and it’s often “I’ve had a hard day and just want some McDonalds, please help”

    OK, that’s not mutual aid, and you shouldn’t be asking for that under that hashtag. if you need help paying your rent, or with gas money so you don’t lose your job, that’s something that appropriate for mutual aid. asking for money for vices should be something you do off the hashtag, or on your OF or something. mutual aid is for people helping where they can, when they can, for problems that are serious and life-altering. and nothing else.

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      One problem with reporting private messages on Lermy is, as an admin i don’t see who sent the message. I only see who reported it. And i don’t have any actlon available, other than marking the report as handled.

      with reported posts, i can ban the poster. With reported messages i’d have to ask the reporter who it was, trust their answer, search for the account manually and then i could ban. Not really efficient or fast if there ever was a spam wave.

      of course sparmers could then just register a new account on a open instance and i might need to defederates which would lead to a fractured landscape of spammy open instances and likely inactive private instances.

      there’s also not even rudimantary spam filtering in lemmy.

      The main saving grace is that Lemmy is too small to attract a ton of spam yet.

      maybe some of the above is just due my pick of clients (jerboa and the web interface), and there’s better tools? If so, i’d love to hear. But as things stand right now, there’s a lot to be desired

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        13 days ago

        I wish I had approximately double the hours in a given day, and also vastly more coding skill to help in meaningful ways.

        It seems sort of odd that comments or messages reported for spam don’t offer any tools. Even a simple url pattern match that gives mods/admins the ability to click a checkbox to remember the link and take some predefined action in the future would be a rudimentary but effective option.

        I mean, heck, it’s the fediverse. In my fantasy implementation of an anti-spam approach, it would be possible to federate these lists of untrusted links and assign consensus-based confidence scores for links generated from moderator actions across instances. (With options for instance admins to tailor their own trust scores of other instances, so that each instance can choose for themselves who they trust, just in case a couple rogue instance admins try to poison the spam filter.)
        Same concept can be applied to banned accounts, although in that circumstance, I’d suggest they find a way to mask the email address when sharing it. Not that folks won’t just spin up a new email. But, you know. Something is better than nothing.

        Hopefully that makes sense. I’m losing my mind with sleep deprivation.