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ADHD is a chemical impairment happening inside the brain.
Severe ADHD is the equivalent of attempting to control an allergic reaction by thought alone, without the help of medication.
Fuck anyone who will call us lazy or “unwilling to do the effort”. They wouldn’t last a day in our shoes.
All of my bios in socmed say simply “Dreamer” (except here lol) because all i do is dream about what life could and should be like if only i could attain it.
So, yeah, yeah i do get this.I would say it’s like metal music screaming. The scream is there but it doesn’t feel like a threat.
I think this might be the first time I find the right words to say this. Also it’s probably not the right thread but if I try to make a post I’ll lose motivation and not write this, so… Since we’re in an ADHD sub, here we go.
It irks me when people say I physically can’t get off the sofa and do things. Because no, there’s nothing physical preventing us. There’s no barrier, there’s no muscle weakness, our neurons haven’t stopped telling our legs to work. We’re mentally blocked instead (as evidenced, for example, by the fact that we might be able to get up to go get more crisps, while moping and feeling useless all the way to the kitchen and back).
Our mind, and by this I’m talking about the area of the brain that controls executive function, it’s refusing to either put together a plan (10:04 am - get up, 10:05 am - clean kitchen) or might know the plan but refusing to execute it and send the commands to another part of the brain.
I think when people say “I physically can’t move”, neurotypicals roll their eyes and don’t understand, because there’s nothing at a physical level actually preventing an able-bodied individual to move, and they make the mental shortcut to “this person is lazy”.
Sorry about the rambling. TL;DR: I think we need better wording to explain this to people who don’t experience it, as we’re blocked mentally, not physically.
For me it’s mostly from the unintentional overthinking, being inundated by the all the different ways to do something, then becoming overloaded and lost on where or how to start
I have once before explained it like the brain trying to solve all steps of a task at once. For some things it’s a huge advantage, but the more complex or open ended the task, the easier it is to be completely overwhelmed.
Huh, happy shared cake day!
This is it
Yes yes yes yes yes
I’ve sometimes described it the same as when someone goes skydiving and can’t jump out. It’s that same level of subconscious block, but to seemly mundane things (at least in my experience)
No this is spot-on. When people say “physically” it’s hyperbole, and it feels close to the truth, but your explanation is spot-on.
Thank you for finally writing down what I wanted to for so long
I’m sure there’s plenty of people who hate being lazy, especially (speaking from experience) if it’s linked to depression.
I’m a little of both. I definitely want to be organized and near, but I have come to a place where I don’t stress about it. I wouldn’t really call that laziness but depending on your values you might.
Yeah. I hate it so much. 2 things i learned that help a little is to make the task as tiny as possible. Have to do dishes? What if i just wash 1 glass and make myself a chocolate milk? Or if i wash just this bowl and get some peanuts? And then when i am washing just that one thing, it is soooo much easier to wash the rest.
The other one is breaking my project down into tiny tasks. This one might be more for my autism, but having a list of what to do helps me so much. Things feel like gigantic tasks and i won’t know where to start. But if i figure out what needs to be done, it makes it a lot easier.
But then making a list is hard because of my adhd… so… 🤷
Yes, in fact (for me) I don’t think it’s so much breaking things down than tricking myself into thinking there’s less than there actually is. I don’t start by washing one bowl, I tell myself that’s all there is to wash. And then when that one bowl is clean, the total amount of chores has shrunk by that much. It seems my brain can’t fathom doing all in small chunks, almost as if it couldn’t stand the idea of stopping midway through it for the day and resume tomorrow. It has to be either done today, or not done at all. The idea of half-done is unacceptable.
Yeah, washing one thing is simple, but a long sequences of things to wash is ensuring to think about… There are greasy things, crusted things, that all need different methods to wash. Also, it takes a long time for the water to become hot. Then drying…
But then, once the first thing has been washed, the water is already hot and soap is already partially washing the other greasy things! Might as well do a little bit more washing while we’re at it. If i stop, i have to dry my hands and wipe the countertop…
I do this too. I kinda hate brushing my teeth, but I just tell myself “oh, what if I just brush them real quick, for just 30 seconds or so” and then once I’ve started it doesn’t bother me at all, so I just brush them properly. Been doing it like this for years now.
All the unfinished projects are testament
I am not sure if have that or if I’m lazy
Yes I do and anyone with some knowledge on ADHD should be able to get it.
