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    Loving the light/dark mode suggestion! It ties in perfectly with the deeper accessibility features I’m developing, especially for users with ADHD, autism, and sensory sensitivities.

    I’m starting with the Catppuccin color palette for uniformity across the platform. High-contrast modes will be designed to support various types of color blindness, ensuring the platform is navigable for everyone. Color adjustments will be tailored to enhance readability and interaction for conditions like Deuteranopia and Monochromacy. Additionally, all interactive elements will comply with WCAG 2.1 AA standards, ensuring they are keyboard navigable and screen reader friendly. If you want to see how slick this can look, especially on Amoled screens, check out this interactive demo of Catppuccin on TailwindCSS. It’s smooth and totally aligns with the ‘gucci mobile view’ you love!

    And hey, if you’re down, I could really use a hand turning these ideas into reality. Your insight could be just what’s needed to make sure everything clicks just right. We both know how unique our learning and thinking styles are, and getting your perspective would be invaluable, especially since this project is all about creating spaces that adapt to individual needs.

    Seriously hyped to possibly collaborate with you on this. Let’s chat more and see how we can shake things up together =P


  • Thank you for opening up and sharing such deeply personal parts of your history. It really resonates with me, as my relationship with my dad evolved in ways that are both similar and distinct from yours. While my father also had a strict and intimidating side during my early years, much of that was influenced by my grandfather, who pushed him to be that way. However, as I grew older, our relationship changed significantly.

    During my teen years, my dad shifted from that authoritarian figure to someone I could genuinely connect with. He became the “cool dad,” and our bond strengthened as he started to reverse course on his earlier strictness. He let me throw parties at home, mostly when he wasn’t around, and often came home to a house full of people. It was wild, lots of weed, alcohol, and yet he mostly took it in stride. He even had a jar full of condoms in the kitchen at one point, not that I needed that many, lol. It was his way of showing trust and support, which went a long way in healing the wounds from his earlier parenting style.

    While my dad and I grew closer, my grandma and mom were always kind and supportive figures in my life. Their warmth balanced out the harsher moments and gave me a sense of stability.

    I really understand where you’re coming from with the complexities of deciding when to reconnect or when to maintain distance in those relationships. It’s never easy, but I hope that sharing our stories can help us both feel a bit more understood in our journeys.

    Hahaha, I totally get what you’re saying about the running beat, there’s definitely a call-and-response vibe there, and it’s cool how different things like that can connect us. Running really is a great way to stay grounded, and it makes sense that your military friend finds that connection through it, even if their music choice leans more electronic. Structure can be a real challenge with ADHD, so I totally relate to the need to mix things up. I’m always craving change, too, whether it’s taking a different route or just switching up my routine, it keeps things interesting and manageable.

    As for being on-call, yeah, it’s definitely a grind. I was supposed to be paid extra for that, but the company never followed through, and I only found out about the legal requirements after I’d already moved on. By then, I was just glad to close that chapter and didn’t care too much. But it’s frustrating how companies try to squeeze out as much as they can without fairly compensating people. I completely agree with the idea of pulling off dual gigs, stacking cash, and investing to get ahead of the rat race. If you’re looking into that, you might find this community really helpful.

    You’re spot on about the two camps with ADHD—either needing all the information at once or wanting it in clean, bite-sized pieces. That balance is definitely something I’m focused on. I’m aiming to create a design that caters to both needs, making sure the content is organized, clear, and easy to navigate, especially on mobile. It’s frustrating when you’re trying to learn something and the design just gets in the way, so I’m putting a lot of thought into keeping things as clean and readable as possible, even without “reader” mode.

    I totally get why you like PieFed. Clean design makes all the difference, even with a few quirks. As for the job market, yeah, it’s rough out there, but I’m ready to flex my experience. You’re right, sometimes you’ve got to use whatever edge you have to make things work.

    But honestly, it’s not about the money for me. I have a real passion for Linux, which is going to be the main focus of the website at first. With ADHD, I know how tough it can be to learn, everything I know is self-taught. That’s why this project is so important to me. I want to create something that makes learning easier for others like me. I’m committed to keeping the website free for everyone, and I’m looking into applying for grants to cover the costs so that it stays accessible to anyone who needs it.





  • Thanks, I agree, it’s always been abusive, even in the 90s. My grandparents were the ones pushing him to do it, though. I remember overhearing a conversation between one of my grandparents and my dad when he was taking me to an alternative school one day. He actually pushed back on them, saying he didn’t want to do it. I saw him cry once when I asked him why he does it. He had a worse childhood than I did. My grandpa used to call him “fruit” a lot. But yeah, he clearly had ADHD and didn’t know about it. He had this whole system where he would write down anything he didn’t want to forget and he’d just cross it off the list as he got around to it. I saw my name on the list and crossed out once, lol. He never threw punches or anything like that. He’d just grab a belt after work if I got into trouble at school that day. There were more good times than bad; that’s why I always lied to CPS for him. I loved my dad and still do. It’s one of those situations where his dad was really abusive, he was kind of abusive, and I’ve sworn to never be like either of them. I’ve been compared to some Chaotic Good characters, and this is where the “good” comes from, I think. I decided early on to try and do what’s right regardless of what other people think due to the dynamics between my father and his father.

    Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell turned into “Don’t Ask, Don’t Harass” once Obama got into office. I thought that was pretty cool. The structure was the best thing for me, honestly. I’ve been trying to recreate some of that, but it’s been hard. Like just now, I went for a run around the neighborhood like I used to do right after getting out of the military. It’s kind of dumb, but this is my favorite cadence to run to. Your left foot is supposed to hit the ground when they clap. It helps you forget about running.

    The burnout was due to being on-call while simultaneously being underpaid. I wasn’t allowed to really go anywhere because if I missed a call, then my backup would get called, and that always seemed to cause issues. I had to work all day, and my evenings were usually filled with emergencies too. Many nights I’d be stuck on a bridge for 6+ hours when I should have been asleep because some service went down and it was all hands on deck until service was restored. After my dad died, and right as the pandemic was starting, I quit my job and basically took an extended vacation for the next 8 months until I felt back to normal. The next job was a dream come true, but it was temporary because I was on a 12-month contract (the contract got renewed once, so it turned out to be a two-year gig). I had another job after that which wasn’t a good fit, but I’m fully committed to DevOps-type work. I’d love to be a manager though, maybe I’ll look into that. Anyway, I could never get burnt out from this type of work because it truly is my passion. I’m planning to get two jobs this time and work both of them simultaneously. It’s called Overemployed. I’ve also started an educational website tailored for people with ADHD. It’s going to be gamified in a way that makes learning easier for people who have a learning disability. I was thinking I might apply for a government grant too just for some extra cash if I qualify. Tech seems ageist to me, but only because my coworkers have always been older than me.

    I’ll check out those links you sent me. I’m mostly fine, just dealing with RSD from ADHD. It’s all in my head though. I’m trying to get over it with exercise, but I may have just gotten the push I need to really make a change. Those are just statistics, and I don’t feel like they apply to me. I’ve had plenty of counseling and training, and I know myself very well. I’m in a really good place mentally despite the hardships. Doesn’t mean I don’t struggle sometimes. I’m just lonely, not suicidal, ya know? Thanks for the concern, though.

    And I’m not old yet =) You be well too