I really don’t want to push things too far with them, but so far I haven’t really been able to hold my grandkids except for very brief periods and even then there are rules. No kissing them on the hands or face, the aforementioned no tickling their feet. They don’t really seem to be up to letting me watch the grandkids at any point, even though I raised my son and his siblings just fine.

The discipline seems to be completely missing, and I had a talk with my son and he attributed it to wanting to stop generational trauma. What the fuck does that even mean? I took it as though he is trying to say he had a bad childhood. But I had a great childhood, and I would say he did too as far as things like not having any abuse in the house, etc. So how far back does one need to go to round up some trauma. Maybe they are talking about his gf’s family? I guess I will have to sit down with him again and see what exactly he means by that.