Technically true, but sexual assault on men is even more underreported than sexual assault on women. We can’t let other men know we’re weak. Same goes for non-sexual assault. Two exes have been regularly violent to me and I just kept going because I’m not admitting in public that a woman is beating me. I just took it “like a man”, knowing full well I could knock them the fuck out, but choosing not to hit back.
So we really don’t know how much sexual violence is perpertrated against men by women. After all, men always want it, so we can not be raped by women. Unless it’s a particularly fugly woman maybe?
My point is, toxic masculinity and all that. We don’t know how much is being hidden.
I know exactly what you mean. When I (cis man) was freshly 18 in the 00’s I was indecently assaulted by an older woman in a bar when I walked past her and her group of friends and I never reported it. I have friends who experienced similar who never reported it either. When I told my friends that night what had just happened I was told I was lucky to be non-consensually grabbed by a woman. I tried to tell myself that was the case for a long time; it took many years before I came to realise that I was assaulted and, by that point, there was nothing I could do about it.
Technically true, but sexual assault on men is even more underreported than sexual assault on women. We can’t let other men know we’re weak. Same goes for non-sexual assault. Two exes have been regularly violent to me and I just kept going because I’m not admitting in public that a woman is beating me. I just took it “like a man”, knowing full well I could knock them the fuck out, but choosing not to hit back.
So we really don’t know how much sexual violence is perpertrated against men by women. After all, men always want it, so we can not be raped by women. Unless it’s a particularly fugly woman maybe?
My point is, toxic masculinity and all that. We don’t know how much is being hidden.
I know exactly what you mean. When I (cis man) was freshly 18 in the 00’s I was indecently assaulted by an older woman in a bar when I walked past her and her group of friends and I never reported it. I have friends who experienced similar who never reported it either. When I told my friends that night what had just happened I was told I was lucky to be non-consensually grabbed by a woman. I tried to tell myself that was the case for a long time; it took many years before I came to realise that I was assaulted and, by that point, there was nothing I could do about it.
Source for sexual assault on men being more underreported?
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10135558/