I’m sorry for your friend, and yes mortality puts life into new perspectives.
But I want to make it clear… I am not kind. I just have values I live by, knowing what your values are is your guiding star when you can’t decide to care about something or everything. I have a train-wreck derailment of people I’ve made angry in my life by sticking to my values and principles, and I feel zero regret about it, because I know my values are correct, and I don’t compromise at a certain level.
I am getting increasingly distressed by how alien this seems to modern generations, and how many people are open about the fact that they can’t decide or figure out how to build their values and seem to default to “attitude” over ethics.
I think it’s easy to associate adhering to values with being unkind (those values could easily exhibit kindness, depending on what they are).
I just don’t believe you’re unkind. If you were, your values wouldn’t tell you that we should shut down power to a neighborhood for a cat. You would just think something like ‘glad that’s not my problem’ and move on. I don’t think that people who are unkind are bothered by things like this, because again ‘not my problem’. You have made it your problem by caring, and are thus precluded from being unkind (in my opinion).
I’m sorry for your friend, and yes mortality puts life into new perspectives.
But I want to make it clear… I am not kind. I just have values I live by, knowing what your values are is your guiding star when you can’t decide to care about something or everything. I have a train-wreck derailment of people I’ve made angry in my life by sticking to my values and principles, and I feel zero regret about it, because I know my values are correct, and I don’t compromise at a certain level.
I am getting increasingly distressed by how alien this seems to modern generations, and how many people are open about the fact that they can’t decide or figure out how to build their values and seem to default to “attitude” over ethics.
I think it’s easy to associate adhering to values with being unkind (those values could easily exhibit kindness, depending on what they are).
I just don’t believe you’re unkind. If you were, your values wouldn’t tell you that we should shut down power to a neighborhood for a cat. You would just think something like ‘glad that’s not my problem’ and move on. I don’t think that people who are unkind are bothered by things like this, because again ‘not my problem’. You have made it your problem by caring, and are thus precluded from being unkind (in my opinion).