It is normal to realize a series of steps are needed to accomplish a goal, but we are supposed to learn over time what is practical within the time constraints we have.
This persons list might be entirely practical if they are spending an entire day cleaning and organizing, and they can mentally keep track of the general order things should be done in.
People start calling things ADHD or ADD when someone is trying to fit that entire list into 30 minutes, and/or they don’t actually need to do 90% of it at all anyways.
What about when it’s “I’m totally going to do my laundry today” in the morning, and then suddenly realizing it’s already evening and I haven’t done a fucking thing, and saying “Okay, tomorrow for sure.” For literal weeks at a time.
Or how about this one? I start organizing in the morning, intending to spend the day decluttering. Ten minutes in, I get distracted with a book, or some craft supplies, or an unfinished, forgotten project, or whatever the hell else I find in the piles of clutter that crowd my room because I’m never quite done with it, but I rarely actually get back fo it because I’m always starting something new and hardly ever finishing anything.
I started to shift my projects to the digital world and to smaller electronics. Also sports with little equipment needed. No more woodworking, spray painting, cardboard building, or whatever. I had a whole workshop, but didn’t think of the day I might move out of my place that was quire unique in the way it made the workshop possible. Before the workshop I had all that stuff in my room, in good old piles.
Now my projects mainly exist in the digital world, where they don’t clutter my everyday live, which is helping me to keep my space tidy, which helps me with general structure a lot.
You like learning new things, when they aren’t new anymore they aren’t fun, which is why you have a thousand hobbies that have “just been started and abandoned”. Part of this is accepting that you no longer are intrigued by older hobbies, and making room for new ones. I would recommend disposing of or donating your old hobby supplies, or simply storing them out of the way in bins.
For the second part, it sounds like you don’t enjoy cleaning or organizing, and are easily distracted by more enjoyable activities. A good way to go about this is to reward yourself with those things once you finish the chore or task you set yourself, rather than to switch to them immediately.
I’d also add that if you have a chore you can put off for weeks on end, it might not be that important of a chore in the first place.
Yeah, laundry isn’t that important. I can just wear the same clothes for months on end before they start to feel stiff and grimy…
And it’s not that I mind organizing. It’s that I have to study every thing individually to see whether I still need it out or if I can put it away. “Oh yeah, I got this book out cause I meant to read it. Let me look at the back cover and table of contents to see whether I’m still interested…” “Oh, here’s my embroidery hoop! Lemme just finish up this project real quick before I put it away.”
Lastly, having a thousand unfinished projects and constantly starting new hobbies isn’t that big of a deal, but the same pattern exists when it comes to career path, and it’s kinda hard to develop job skills when I literally can’t give a shit about something for more than a month at a time…
It is normal to realize a series of steps are needed to accomplish a goal, but we are supposed to learn over time what is practical within the time constraints we have.
This persons list might be entirely practical if they are spending an entire day cleaning and organizing, and they can mentally keep track of the general order things should be done in.
People start calling things ADHD or ADD when someone is trying to fit that entire list into 30 minutes, and/or they don’t actually need to do 90% of it at all anyways.
What about when it’s “I’m totally going to do my laundry today” in the morning, and then suddenly realizing it’s already evening and I haven’t done a fucking thing, and saying “Okay, tomorrow for sure.” For literal weeks at a time.
Or how about this one? I start organizing in the morning, intending to spend the day decluttering. Ten minutes in, I get distracted with a book, or some craft supplies, or an unfinished, forgotten project, or whatever the hell else I find in the piles of clutter that crowd my room because I’m never quite done with it, but I rarely actually get back fo it because I’m always starting something new and hardly ever finishing anything.
I started to shift my projects to the digital world and to smaller electronics. Also sports with little equipment needed. No more woodworking, spray painting, cardboard building, or whatever. I had a whole workshop, but didn’t think of the day I might move out of my place that was quire unique in the way it made the workshop possible. Before the workshop I had all that stuff in my room, in good old piles. Now my projects mainly exist in the digital world, where they don’t clutter my everyday live, which is helping me to keep my space tidy, which helps me with general structure a lot.
You like learning new things, when they aren’t new anymore they aren’t fun, which is why you have a thousand hobbies that have “just been started and abandoned”. Part of this is accepting that you no longer are intrigued by older hobbies, and making room for new ones. I would recommend disposing of or donating your old hobby supplies, or simply storing them out of the way in bins.
For the second part, it sounds like you don’t enjoy cleaning or organizing, and are easily distracted by more enjoyable activities. A good way to go about this is to reward yourself with those things once you finish the chore or task you set yourself, rather than to switch to them immediately.
I’d also add that if you have a chore you can put off for weeks on end, it might not be that important of a chore in the first place.
Yeah, laundry isn’t that important. I can just wear the same clothes for months on end before they start to feel stiff and grimy…
And it’s not that I mind organizing. It’s that I have to study every thing individually to see whether I still need it out or if I can put it away. “Oh yeah, I got this book out cause I meant to read it. Let me look at the back cover and table of contents to see whether I’m still interested…” “Oh, here’s my embroidery hoop! Lemme just finish up this project real quick before I put it away.”
Lastly, having a thousand unfinished projects and constantly starting new hobbies isn’t that big of a deal, but the same pattern exists when it comes to career path, and it’s kinda hard to develop job skills when I literally can’t give a shit about something for more than a month at a time…