If you still desired others it wasn’t #truelove IMHO but I understand this has become controversial in some circles.

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      2 days ago

      How would that work? Honest question. Is that like buying something and storing it away just so you one it and no one else can use it?

      That doesnt feel like desire to me.

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        2 days ago

        To be honest too, I don’t know. I just know that I love (or whichever word you assign meaning to) her a lot. I want her to be happy, but I don’t want to have sex with her, nor do I want to have a formal romantic relationship with her.

        I would like to emotionally, financially, or non-financially (like as simple as help pick up a parcel for example) contribute to her and ask for absolute no reciprocation.

        If she eventually has a relationship with some one else, my heart would hurt a lot, but I would still be happy for her.

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          1 day ago

          Thanks for explaining it. I can understand it now but it still feels very foreign to me.

          Kind of feels more parental than spousal. if i look at it like that it makes more sense. but im sure that is still not exactly how you picture it.

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            Thank you for your vocabulary too.😂 “Parental” is still off but not by a lot. I am far from old enough to be her dad, but a big brother I would accept the deal. “I do”, haha.