idk bud, pulling out my unamused face is a cornerstone of my humour. Being old helps because it’s an “oh shit” moment rather than a “lol you are cute when you are mad” moment.
When I was in Uni we got a cake made that said “just write [message] on it, and don’t mess it up” and took a photo of the student society president frowning at it. Comedy!
I mean I’m closer to 40 than 30, and expressing nonplussed as a kind of intentionally sarcastic ‘comedy’ just reads as either pain or smugness or annoyance.
Maybe funny in small doses, but if its a regular staple of your ‘comedy’, its not very good comedy, it just conveys dissapointment.
There’s also a large difference between an intentional group photo where everyone is collectively doing a frown, performatively, and a one on one photo that is candid and ostensibly significantly based around the subject of the photo.
The wife has low empathy and is bullying him, and presenting it as joke.
I’m sorry, have you never encountered a situation where a joke was made… at someone else’s expense, who just tolerated it?
You’ve never encountered a bully? Who phrases everything as if everyone is having fun, while also speaking for everyone?
I wasn’t kidding about them getting divorced in not too long; this is a portrait of a one sided, unhealthy relationship.
EDIT:
And the context you’ve provided actually makes it worse.
The… the cat follows the guy around like the cat and the man are boyfriend and girlfriend?
People who make jokes like this are often people who are very insecure and overcompensate by being very controlling, and then pass off stuff like this as ‘funny’ or ‘sarcastic’… when it really isn’t, it just actually is them being jealous of either themself not getting as much attention as they want, or somebody giving / getting attention from not them.
The joke could also be on the wife depending on the perspective. Kinda in the Mrs Hyacinth kind of way. We don’t laugh at Richard for being oppressed and abused by his wife. We laugh at her for being such an insufferable dummy. That’s the type of joke I got out of this birthday picture. A Mrs Hyacinth joke.
Honestly, I don’t think it is that deep. I think you’re hurting, which is valid, but you’re projecting your own hurt onto one photo and judging an entire relationship based off of one joke-pic. If we knew more about their relationship dynamic and what they are like as people, we may be better equipped to judge whether or not this joke is made by two people who thinks it’s funny or made by one party to humiliate the other. We literally don’t know.
idk bud, pulling out my unamused face is a cornerstone of my humour. Being old helps because it’s an “oh shit” moment rather than a “lol you are cute when you are mad” moment.
When I was in Uni we got a cake made that said “just write [message] on it, and don’t mess it up” and took a photo of the student society president frowning at it. Comedy!
I mean I’m closer to 40 than 30, and expressing nonplussed as a kind of intentionally sarcastic ‘comedy’ just reads as either pain or smugness or annoyance.
Maybe funny in small doses, but if its a regular staple of your ‘comedy’, its not very good comedy, it just conveys dissapointment.
There’s also a large difference between an intentional group photo where everyone is collectively doing a frown, performatively, and a one on one photo that is candid and ostensibly significantly based around the subject of the photo.
I think what I am struggling to understand about this reply is why you are so confident the photo wasn’t posted as a joke.
The joke is the husband.
The wife has low empathy and is bullying him, and presenting it as joke.
I’m sorry, have you never encountered a situation where a joke was made… at someone else’s expense, who just tolerated it?
You’ve never encountered a bully? Who phrases everything as if everyone is having fun, while also speaking for everyone?
I wasn’t kidding about them getting divorced in not too long; this is a portrait of a one sided, unhealthy relationship.
EDIT:
And the context you’ve provided actually makes it worse.
The… the cat follows the guy around like the cat and the man are boyfriend and girlfriend?
People who make jokes like this are often people who are very insecure and overcompensate by being very controlling, and then pass off stuff like this as ‘funny’ or ‘sarcastic’… when it really isn’t, it just actually is them being jealous of either themself not getting as much attention as they want, or somebody giving / getting attention from not them.
Look up ‘Narcissistic Supply’.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/toxic-relationships/202108/the-concept-of-narcissistic-supply
This is a narcissist’s idea of a joke.
The joke could also be on the wife depending on the perspective. Kinda in the Mrs Hyacinth kind of way. We don’t laugh at Richard for being oppressed and abused by his wife. We laugh at her for being such an insufferable dummy. That’s the type of joke I got out of this birthday picture. A Mrs Hyacinth joke.
Honestly, I don’t think it is that deep. I think you’re hurting, which is valid, but you’re projecting your own hurt onto one photo and judging an entire relationship based off of one joke-pic. If we knew more about their relationship dynamic and what they are like as people, we may be better equipped to judge whether or not this joke is made by two people who thinks it’s funny or made by one party to humiliate the other. We literally don’t know.