heyhey,
this here might contain two questions actually.
- got an idea, what instrument might suit me?
- how, actually learn?
background
i am not new to learng stuff by myself, mostly languages in the widest sense. the only thing i can’t really get my head around is music. i know rudimentary how to read notes, but ofc don’t really grasp what they mean. when i learned a bit about electronics, that explained a lot more about music for me. i tried to learn the recorder (bc its was there) and keyboard (bc super versatile). by now, that all didn’t work. i am a beginner.
i guess that is abt how these are played. i am used to grab a book sit down in a comfy position and read. keyboards need setup and are relatively large. the recorder is small and portable, but you need a decent body position, to control your breath.
i was thinking about some kind of ukulele, maybe? how do i build a habit, that works for practice?


As someone who’s played instruments since an early age, I can say that I’m one of those people who are really shit at chords, so guitar is really hard for me.
I started on clarinet (had lessons), saxophone, flute, and bits of piano and trombone. Once I had the lessons, it made picking up other instruments so much easier. I currently have an Irish flute and whistle and the flute is such a challenge without all of the traditional concert flute buttons.
So like FinjaminPoach, I would also recommend some lessons to start to get the basics (perhaps online videos might suffice, but I’ve never explored those).
Another bit of advice is to practice, practice, practice. And pick up some music you want to work towards playing, not just Mary had a Little Lamb. That’s boring as batshit. There’s all sorts of versions for same songs. There’s easy versions for beginners, and then there’s the harder versions with all of the little pick ups, syncopation, fast parts, etc. that make it sound like the artist’s studio version.
Fumble with the easy one, but it gets easier when you commit the notes/fingering/chords to memory first so you don’t keep having to look at the fingering chart. Once you memorise those, it feels like you’ve broken a barrier when you can get through a song with all its mistakes and your effort sounds even somewhat like a real tune you can recognise. From there, it’s practice.