• fizzle@quokk.au
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    2 hours ago

    People on reddit and lemmy have weird ideas about relationships ought to be.

    Provided that both people are adults then age in itself isn’t a problem.

    I mean, if a 25 year old has several 50 year old “boyfriends” who each give her a stack of pocket money each month and pay her rent and everything, more power to her right?

    The problems arise from a power imbalance. If an older guy has manipulated a younger woman into getting trapped in a shit relationship then that sucks but its not the age that’s the problem.

    • FuglyDuck@lemmy.world
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      43 minutes ago

      I largely agree that it’s not the age that’s the problem.

      The thing is that the age is a useful proxy for all sorts of things that might lead to such power imbalances.

      Including:

      • emotional/mental maturity
      • life experiences to avoid such imbalanced
      • financial stability and well being

      It isn’t absolute, and context matters, but it is a useful proxy.