The cry it out method isn't just one set of instructions for getting your baby to sleep through the night but rather a variety of strategies. We'll explain those strategies.
My wife is very anti sleep training. She has done quite a bit of research on it, and there are some serious long term issues that it can create for children.
I’d be curious of the serious long term issues that she found. I did a bunch of research on this as well and never found any credible source for or against CIO, really. There’s a huge spectrum between the different methods too, and I found lots of people conflating “ignoring all the needs of your child” with CIO which isn’t really what any of the methods proscribe.
I don’t really have a horse in the race, my daughter sleeps wonderfully and has since she was 4 months old or so, but there is a lot of fear mongering on the internet about parenting styles and techniques and the amount of actual evidence is sparser than I’d like. New parents are already neurotic and the internet in general jumps to warning about serious long term issues for almost anything.
I’d like to hear about them. There are also many different sleep training methods. I can see how some might have issues. For example I stayed in baby’s room and just pet/shush her instead of holding. She screamed on top of her lungs for 4 hours in my face while I did that. Was that stressful for her? Probably, yeah. But it was either that or killing myself due to months of having less than 1hr of sleep. I’m sure not having parents is worse than whatever issues your wife found. I’m happy your child was chill enough to naturally learn how to sleep. That wasn’t the case with our kid.
Yeah, our child doesn’t sleep great through the night. My wife co-sleeps with our baby in the bed, and I sleep on the couch. This is the person she gets info from https://heysleepybaby.com/
My wife is very anti sleep training. She has done quite a bit of research on it, and there are some serious long term issues that it can create for children.
I’d be curious of the serious long term issues that she found. I did a bunch of research on this as well and never found any credible source for or against CIO, really. There’s a huge spectrum between the different methods too, and I found lots of people conflating “ignoring all the needs of your child” with CIO which isn’t really what any of the methods proscribe.
I don’t really have a horse in the race, my daughter sleeps wonderfully and has since she was 4 months old or so, but there is a lot of fear mongering on the internet about parenting styles and techniques and the amount of actual evidence is sparser than I’d like. New parents are already neurotic and the internet in general jumps to warning about serious long term issues for almost anything.
I think this is the person she follows for info about it. https://heysleepybaby.com/
I’d like to hear about them. There are also many different sleep training methods. I can see how some might have issues. For example I stayed in baby’s room and just pet/shush her instead of holding. She screamed on top of her lungs for 4 hours in my face while I did that. Was that stressful for her? Probably, yeah. But it was either that or killing myself due to months of having less than 1hr of sleep. I’m sure not having parents is worse than whatever issues your wife found. I’m happy your child was chill enough to naturally learn how to sleep. That wasn’t the case with our kid.
Yeah, our child doesn’t sleep great through the night. My wife co-sleeps with our baby in the bed, and I sleep on the couch. This is the person she gets info from https://heysleepybaby.com/