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  • Wolf_359@lemmy.world
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    10 months ago

    I’ll tell you one thing that really changed my understanding of how common this is.

    A gay acquaintance of mine confessed that someone had reached out to him via Snapchat to fool around. That someone was a supposedly-straight man that we had gone to high school with. Throughout high school and beyond, this guy was very much a ladies man. He was a tall football player who women were always attracted to. He had a million guy friends and was very masculine.

    Apparently, he still identifies as straight but was curious. He’s now married to a woman and has kids.

    Another of my acquaintances is bisexual (or something?). He wasn’t willing to kiss and tell, which I can respect. But he said I would be absolutely astounded at the number of straight guys who are secretly down to clown.

    I personally have zero interest in same-sex relations. I’m totally happy for people who enjoy that, but the idea of it just doesn’t do anything for me at all. I guess I had spent a lot of my youth being accepting of LGBTQ+, but assuming most people felt the way I did and there was a very small, small minority of people who didn’t.

    But those two interactions made me realize: I was getting a window into people who felt that way and had the guts to make a move. It hit me that there are probably so many more people who feel that way and don’t make a move for a variety of reasons. Either they’re already in a straight relationship and don’t want to be unfaithful, they’ve internalized shame about it, or the stigma is just too much to overcome for them.

    Dude, I really think there are so many more people out there who are at least “curious” than most of us will ever imagine.