I’ll tell you one thing that really changed my understanding of how common this is.
A gay acquaintance of mine confessed that someone had reached out to him via Snapchat to fool around. That someone was a supposedly-straight man that we had gone to high school with. Throughout high school and beyond, this guy was very much a ladies man. He was a tall football player who women were always attracted to. He had a million guy friends and was very masculine.
Apparently, he still identifies as straight but was curious. He’s now married to a woman and has kids.
Another of my acquaintances is bisexual (or something?). He wasn’t willing to kiss and tell, which I can respect. But he said I would be absolutely astounded at the number of straight guys who are secretly down to clown.
I personally have zero interest in same-sex relations. I’m totally happy for people who enjoy that, but the idea of it just doesn’t do anything for me at all. I guess I had spent a lot of my youth being accepting of LGBTQ+, but assuming most people felt the way I did and there was a very small, small minority of people who didn’t.
But those two interactions made me realize: I was getting a window into people who felt that way and had the guts to make a move. It hit me that there are probably so many more people who feel that way and don’t make a move for a variety of reasons. Either they’re already in a straight relationship and don’t want to be unfaithful, they’ve internalized shame about it, or the stigma is just too much to overcome for them.
Dude, I really think there are so many more people out there who are at least “curious” than most of us will ever imagine.
I’ll tell you one thing that really changed my understanding of how common this is.
A gay acquaintance of mine confessed that someone had reached out to him via Snapchat to fool around. That someone was a supposedly-straight man that we had gone to high school with. Throughout high school and beyond, this guy was very much a ladies man. He was a tall football player who women were always attracted to. He had a million guy friends and was very masculine.
Apparently, he still identifies as straight but was curious. He’s now married to a woman and has kids.
Another of my acquaintances is bisexual (or something?). He wasn’t willing to kiss and tell, which I can respect. But he said I would be absolutely astounded at the number of straight guys who are secretly down to clown.
I personally have zero interest in same-sex relations. I’m totally happy for people who enjoy that, but the idea of it just doesn’t do anything for me at all. I guess I had spent a lot of my youth being accepting of LGBTQ+, but assuming most people felt the way I did and there was a very small, small minority of people who didn’t.
But those two interactions made me realize: I was getting a window into people who felt that way and had the guts to make a move. It hit me that there are probably so many more people who feel that way and don’t make a move for a variety of reasons. Either they’re already in a straight relationship and don’t want to be unfaithful, they’ve internalized shame about it, or the stigma is just too much to overcome for them.
Dude, I really think there are so many more people out there who are at least “curious” than most of us will ever imagine.