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  • I hear you. Yes, It’s definitely easier when there are at least already one or two women already present.

    But sometimes you have to watch your back sometimes even then. Cuz there can be the ‘pickme’ ladies that lean into the misogyny. I’ve come by some real toxic ones that had rap sheets of other victims all women that had bundled together and basically had group therapy about the same woman.

    That’s where I start saving every single email they (the toxic ones) send me. I’ve taken one or two out in my day just on ‘accidently’ forwarding an email they sent me they thought they had me too intimidated to send. I was just biding my time giving them false confidence.

    Strength sometimes takes a lot of patience to help a person fuck up in front of the wrong line of people.

    Document everything.



  • …what is is to be a woman in STEM. and why a lot of women leave and why it’s a sausage party. And also why women online often disguise themselves even in games.

    That being said I suggest this when some rando online is trying to pressure you: when a person is so fragile to be easily annoyed by your existence: exist harder. They are the fool for giving you such power. Lean into it. Ask more questions. Watch them stir in their seat overreacting.

    Cuz one thing I’ve learned is when you are that brave: there are twice as many newbies hiding around you thinking you’re awesome for asking all the hard questions.

    Don’t delete because of some elitist assholes. Leave it up for the other newbies. Get more newbies up in their business.




  • Ok even at that I’m sure what with working with people and asking of questions the other symptoms are present. They might not connect from one symptom to another to be a factor of another. I have made the mistake myself as have others who may not be over 50.

    UTIs can be scary if you don’t know the symptoms are related at any age or gender. hence why I posted this and what to look out for.

    Also didnt ask you for sources just so you can post here. Sorry if I’ve somehow upset you and you felt you needed to do show criteria? Just to be here?. You don’t need a license pass or whatever to post here just to be valid to have a civil discussion between humans with bodies. Let’s just be courteous and respectful.

    Source: trying to look after a frail meat and bone bag like everyone else.






  • Id say more like 70s and above. Ppl aren’t all the same kind of old from 50 to 90. 40 yrs is a large span to be confusing all symptoms into all the same age group. And this ignores menopause (once again menopause gets ignored) which is its own bag of tricks which happens in the span as early as 45(and in some rare cases 30s) which can span all the way into mid 60s.

    50 is a bit young to be confused with dementia or stroke unless there is something incredibly unusual (and I mean outlier level) going on. And they would typically still experience the UTI pain first before the confusion. Lots of women go onto use HRT just on the early symptoms alone.

    There are differences in typical health prone changes the decades(including stages of peri, post, menopause and andropause).

    like you wouldn’t be confusing a 5 yr old with a 20 yr old. And that is only a span of 15 yrs but there are distinct differences in puberty changes then too just as you wouldn’t confuse health problems a 70 old with someone at 55 with menopause symptoms.

    you also wouldn’t confuse someone who might be unable to be mobile in their 90s getting UTI from an unchanged diaper or catheter with a 50 yr old getting a UTI from ph imbalance because of menopause.


  • UTI. if you feel a lot of pressure in the front apron pouch (lower torso) below the belt and it starts to sting a bit to go to the bathroom and you find your pee is hard to come out and you always feel like you need to pee, and you feel a bit foggy brained get to a doctor for some antibiotics sooner rather than later. Catch these warning signs before they turn into infected kidneys. That’s where it gets super dangerous.

    Kidney infection feels like someone has punched you in the side. Like a horse kick and it is deep. You will be feeling it high on the back like in the ribs. By then it can no longer be treated as a uti and they have to give you something else for it to clear it up.

    Also if you feel that deeper pain for any reason go to emergency. Get a CT scan. regular back/spine/arthritis pain is along surface pain. Like you can touch it if it is like a centimeter from the skin surface.

    anything deeper that lasts more than a few days you want to check for pancreatic cancer to possibly catch it early.serious the amount of people who brush it off as just back pain as it gradually gets deeper regret not going in sooner.

    And If you’re a guy getting uti Something is going real wrong cuz men shouldn’t be getting uti. Get to a doctor asap. If you are pretty certain it’s likely not to be from a sti/havent had sex in a while : get to emergency quick. This could be a problem with the larger bowels with bladder that leads to sepsis.

    Ladies: Get some pee sticks, those will help you keep an eye on your urine health too. Uti gets pretty common for women as ph changes with hormones but still get it checked by a doctor if it’s super common like less than every six months. Heck even if it’s every six months is still far too often.