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Cake day: 2025年11月2日

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  • This is exactly where anyone who has an interest in actually changing someone’s mind wants to be.

    90% of these conversations, which are often shared between friends or at least acquaintances, can be “won” by listening to the other person and meeting them on their own terms. People are way more receptive to hear what you have to say when they feel like what you’re actually saying is relevant to the points that they are making, etc. For example, if someone complains about immigration, it’s likely that they want Americans to have those jobs instead and see immigration as a threat to their way of life. The way to handle something like this is always to address the problem radically, i.e. from the root, and say something like: “I hear what you’re saying, but what if the countries that most immigrants are coming from didn’t have so many issues that they feel like they need to risk their lives/livelihoods to come all the way here? Why is it that these countries in central/south America have so many economic problems relative to the US?” Now the conversation has been re-framed so that it’s actually addressing a root cause, and this person will walk away at least having a thought provoked about US imperialism and it’s consequences, which is an important concept to understand.

    If you simply resort to shutting down topics like this, because you feel a person who holds this worldview is a racist, xenophobe, etc, and therefore morally inferior, you never allow yourself the opportunity to win. You’ve already given up the ghost if you follow your instinct and resort to ad hominem attacks, scolding and finger wagging, and you prove that you lack the rhetorical ability to actually SELL your project, something that is an absolute necessity if you have a genuine interest in the electoral gains of any kind of socialist/populist/proletarian project. My political platform is already popular. People don’t need to be convinced that it’s desirable, only that it is possible, so I am happy to debate and share my opinions with anyone who will listen.


  • I think the premise is missing a few key points. Namely, do we mean in the context of a one on one debate where I’m trying to either convince someone or others involved, or a dialectic where both parties are attempting to come to an agreed upon truth? How serious is my ideological opponent taking MY point of view, or are we just talking in the abstract, like can you imagine in your head tolerating the fact that others have differing opinions with you and living with that reality.

    Basically, I’m a materialist, so for the majority of everyday folks especially including those in my life, I don’t attribute someones political opinions to moral failings or rectitude on their part. 9 out of 10 times it’s due to their upbringing, the material conditions surrounding their childhood and early development, as well as the things that happen to them throughout their life that form someones worldview. Morality might have something to do with it, but ultimately morality is subjective, so who am I to say that someones idea of right and wrong is better than mine. Everyone is justified and righteous in their own mind.

    That said, if I’m actively engaged with someone who isn’t taking what I say seriously (as fascists often do, whom I consider by definition non serious actors in a debate), or is simply using ad hominem attacks on my character, I pretty much am done talking at that point. I feel like I come off as very patient and try and empathize with most people, usually because if I’m actually having this conversation in real life, they’re in my family or in my day to day life, and I try to present my opinion as something that’s naturally compatible with their worldview, because I’m confident that my opinions are correct and I don’t need to insult or demean someone to get my point across.

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  • The hardest part is getting restaurants to list themselves on the service. Worked in the restaurant industry before and during the pandemic, many restaurants despise using delivery apps, and had deliberately chosen not to, I in fact have told one DoorDash rep to fuck off specifically, because they wouldn’t stop trying to list us without our permission. They really are bloodsucking cretins, and it took the financial pressures of the pandemic to strongarm 99% of restaurants to list themselves with some sort of delivery app. Now they all do just to keep pace.