“The fastest way to kill motivation is to make your identity depend on the outcome. This is called " Ego Involvement” - when failing becomes failing as a person, your brain starts avoiding the whole thing. It’s not because you don’t care, or are lazy, but because you care too much.

To overhaul this thought process and it’s resultant consequences on your life, it’s important to recognize that this is what’s happening, and to detach your self worth from everyday tasks/work that needs to be done.

This is part of the reason that doing for others when you can’t do for yourself works.

It also sort of explains why body doubling works for some. It adds an outside pressure we care more about, and demotes the self worth aspect we place on whatever task needs to be done.

This does not mean that you’ll be able to use the coping mechanisms of others to achieve your goal though, sometimes getting proper medical care and mental health care is what allows you to develope coping mechanisms that work for you.

Annoyance at others motivates me. If I put a dish in the sink? That’s fine. The only person I can be mad at is me and my self worth is attached to it, but that’s a problem for later me. If my husband puts a plate in the sink? I’m annoyed, both at him and at the fact that there’s clutter and I’m more motivated to deal with it before it becomes a stack of plates etc.

This is a coping mechanism I have that doesn’t necessarily work for other people. Maybe they don’t live with someone else. Maybe they have a different dynamic and relationship with the people they do live with. But it works for us.

Another of my coping mechanisms is lists, and I have lists for everything. But I separate the lists into categories. This helps me break things down so I don’t become overwhelmed.

I know for a fact that this absolutely does not work for a lot of people I have known with ADHD.

As I have gotten older I have cared less and less about what people think. Somehow this includes myself. Who am I? Why should my thoughts and feelings be any more or less valid than some random person on the street who I not only wouldn’t take advice from, but also might tell where to stick it if I felt judged by them in specific circumstances?

That’s not really something that you can implement necessarily using strategy. And it’s probably not something that happens to everyone, certainly not to the same degree.

Sometimes for me it’s as simple as recognizing that I do need help and then the problem becomes asking for help or being honest about needing it. I loathe asking for help. It feels like failure to me. In the right circumstances that’s enough to motivate me to do it myself. The anxiety of having to ask for help is worse than the lost feeling of missing executive function.

I don’t know how to explain how to do that for another person. I spent 40 years developing a haphazard and cobbled together house of random coping mechanisms that work for me and I’m not sure how another person would implement them.

But I will say that what you describe does sound like a disorder with your executive function and not laziness. And I will say that ADHD is not the only Neurodivergent condition that has executive dysfunction.

Because that is the case it may be beneficial to you to get a second opinion not just about the ADHD but about just having executive dysfunction and the likely cause given your medical and psychological background.

Not anymore.

Nope. This was a rumor and the article title is misleading. Valve blocked NSFW updates of games that were originally labeled as SFW and then the dev tried to update with NSFW game elements.

I don’t work in a programming field but this explains a lot about why I went through and redesigned the intake forms at my old job to be mostly check boxes, and why I hate the way accessory instructions are laid out. If it has no words but just pictures? No thanks. If it has all words and no pictures? No thanks. If it doesn’t lay out the installation in a way that makes step by step sense from start to finish? No thanks. Double back to this step or that step? Nah. I’m good.

There’s an image of a guy with a cutaway into his brain and his brain is just a ball of different highways with cars zooming along at all different speeds in all different directions. I can’t find this image right now but that’s it. That’s my ADHD brain. And there’s music playing.

The image below is the closest I could find.

Rofl. If you expecting anything else except this from Trump, I’ve got some public landmarks for sale.

Ube donut.

It’s pretty cool being a member of a den of iniquity.

Because they will create their own circlejerk in the fediverse too and people will leave them alone to do it. Instances would likely defederate from a truth social instance if it were federated. They are also in the habit of banning anyone who speaks against their side so it wouldn’t do much good to try.

And that was literally the Chinese government who made that call. Not even really to do with the US law change or anything. They were throwing a tantrum and it came with an added bonus of “censorship”.

They have applied for and received Patents in the US recently that pertain to their case against pocketpair

Nintendo obtained yet another just last week, it seems, as reported by Games Fray – and one yesterday. The new US patents include one related to a “smooth switching of riding objects” mechanism, and another that’s far more concerning, as it could change the way that non-Pokemon creature collectors work forever: a patent covering the summoning of a “character” (in Palworld’s case, that would be a Pal) and using it in combat against others.<

• https://www.gamesradar.com/games/survival/as-the-palworld-lawsuit-rumbles-on-nintendo-claims-two-new-patents-that-could-change-the-way-non-pokemon-creature-collectors-work-for-good/

A discount code? BS.

His statements on reddit were also edited after the fact after several people in the comments came with receipts and he doubled down.

The birds in greymoor.

This explains all the visas they’re denying and the people they’re deporting. There was a typo… And everyone knows Christie Noem has trouble with the English language on a good day.

And that is why I don’t click on or watch YouTube videos from here. Either I’ve seen the video already (as is the case with a lot of gamers nexxus vids), or I am not willing to give the amount of time it takes to watch the video when I could read a distilled version of it in a minute or so. I don’t care about your greeting (hey, this is [channel] here, back with another video. Today we’ll be talking about [insert topic], but first …[mindless garbage]).

I know that newer gens love video format and want it for all the things but I do not.

Absolutely not. If you want to track them that badly then put an ankle monitor on them as part of their parole conditions.

Please note I don’t agree with the ankle monitor either but at least it can’t make up data about these people. If you’re paroling them and they have paid their debt to society, I think it’s fair to have them check in with a human parole officer at intervals and leave them alone.

Off topic: As someone who just got a verbal reprimand at work for “language” due to having an outburst of irritation where an explosive expletive was used (which is a common enough occurrence in the hangar where I work), I’m seriously about to start auto censoring everything in the most gen Alpha way possible just to annoy the others.

I grew up in the American public school system during pokemon and Yu-Gi-Oh cards peak popularity. There were a whole lot of people who had card decks confiscated under such rules. I’ve lived in several states and while I don’t know the policies for everyone state I’ve lived in’s public schools, I do know that the school’s my son has attended also have such rules.

So I guess YMMV.

Wishful thinking. I want you to go have a look at DTS and then tell me you think having to use a racist chatbot to access some information is going to collapse the system.