I have an account in beehaw too, and it’s usually the one that interacts with the world. It’s considerably different from a different instance.

Are you saying we can’t know if someone is male or female just by looking at them and that there are other options according to the discussion below?

Have you considered that you’re a people pleaser? Being kind and nice is good, but do you do that in detriment of yourself? Can you say no to favors?