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I wasn’t a black out drunk, mainly cause it didn’t take much to make me drunk, but I couldn’t stop once I started either. First I hold out on drinking during the week, then I’d have drinks on the evening, then a drink before work then decided to quit before it got further out of hand.

I hope you find the motivation to quit cause honestly drinking is such a waste of time. I genuinely believe all you need is to believe you can.

I am managing and kind of not managing really. Recently quit smoking and vaping and went off coffee so my brain has been a bit frazzled. But it’s getting back to normal.

Biggest help is working longer hours but fewer days and having my shift segmented so that I get downtime between busy hours. I do three days a week and on a workday don’t pressure myself to do any housework. On my days off I’ll catch up on sleep and housework.

I also have a diagnosis for autism so to me it seems like I can manage some symptoms of my ADHD easier thanks to ASD. But I also then seek a simple life and don’t do anything much besides work and looking after my dog and my partner. I’ll go out when I’m on holiday.

No use crying over spilt (choccy) milk

I’ve got the same issue but with all black socks

Then sometimes you just wanted to ask what something means and your partner is so used to you asking them to repeat they repeat what they said and no w everyone is confused.

1. Interrupt them
2. Get really excited about the topic
3. Trip over your words
4. Try and wrap up to not scare/bore them
5. Realise what you said made no sense
6. Apologise

Which is especially weird considering the recent news regarding private ADHD clinics and whether it’s too easy to get a diagnosis privately in the UK. Similarly I have a diagnosis for ASD from Finland but have had a therapist say she didn’t think I was autistic, so if I can’t then discuss that in a very large and popular subreddit where should I go. It all seems rather silly.

Yeah I’m hungry and want some food but there’s nothing quick/easy to make in my fridge. I’ve been microwaving potatoes to eat with butter for the past few days.

Why not both

I can barely count to a hundred without struggling, I keep forgetting what the next number is and repeat the number in my head to keep track of where I am until I remember what comes after 47.

Also just can’t do mental math, I’ve memorised basic calculations rather than understanding them so if it’s something I don’t use a lot I start doubting myself and spend ages breaking it down without being able to keep track of it all.

I’ve heard of dyscalculia being common with ADHD people but my schools never tested for it.

This reminds me that my dishwasher is full and I don’t want to empty it. But luckily it’s bedtime.

Yeah and in fairness it can be easier to find something to complain about than come up with positive or even neutral topics but I found most interesting conversations to be about small things I didn’t think could be linked to ADHD.

Also that’s true, if it’s all Americans it’s hard to find out what it’s like to get a diagnosis in another country or what meds are being prescribed etc.

Yeah it’s not like I’d want people to feel bad for having negative feelings about their ADHD, but it might be more helpful to channel those feelings to a more positive change rather than wallowing in it. Had the sub been named r/ADHDvent I don’t think people would’ve been so annoyed but I’ve heard it was difficult to post anything positive as it would get deleted under the rule of “no toxic positivity”.

ADHD is such a personal thing as well it should be up to the individual to define their feelings on it. Currently I don’t like to consider mine a disability mostly due to feelings of being an imposter and having one therapist suggest it may be more of a trauma related thing, but I think that should be my right to define how I feel about my ADHD and how it affects my life since it’s a question of my experiences. For someone else it will affect them a lot more and they’ll struggle a lot more.

I remember it being very negative in that most posts that you’d see just scrolling through it were complains along the lines of “ADHD is the worst” and “just been fired for the fifth time” and it wasn’t until my husband noted that he had heard it being a terrible sub that I realised the atmosphere was purposely that way. They discouraged self-diagnosis to the extend that seemed unhelpful, even though it could be argued that how can someone seek a diagnosis if they don’t first self-diagnose? And generally seemed to consider ADHD as a curse or a disability, regardless of whether and individual would feel that way. They were openly against neurodivergence as a term:

“We consider the neurodiversity paradigm to be harmful to people with ADHD, both directly in terms of its stated goals and indirectly via constant attempts to silence us for disagreeing with them.”