That sounds awful. I dunno. I mean, at the heart of it all, on some level you’re allowing him to continue this behavior by going to him each time. If you don’t go, he has to either keep calling until you give in, or if you don’t give in, he can get pouty about it, yell about it, or eventually come and actually find you.

If you stand your ground and refuse, eventually he has to change his behavior. But, getting to that point will be very uncomfortable. So the question is, how much do you want things to change? Are you willing to go through that discomfort to get your needs met?

What does he do if you stay where you’re at and ask what he wants you for?

Not new, but my biggest one is physically placing things I need to remember in the path of my daily routine. Like if I need to remember to bring my laptop to work, I might put my computer mouse in my shoe.

Another one is moving things in stages. If I’m cleaning my living room and something needs to go upstairs, I’ll just leave it on the stairs for the next time I go up. Otherwise I’m likely to get distracted when I get up there and forget to continue cleaning downstairs.

I also try to have multiples of things that I use in multiple rooms or places. Like a small trashcan in all my rooms so I don’t have to go somewhere else to throw it away. It minimizes distractions and helps me stay focused on the current task.

I brush mine in the shower.

This article does a pretty good job of explaining why it’s not a good thing.

I’m primarily a lurker. I’ve been trying to be better about participating lately because I’d like to help the fediverse grow and be a meaningful online meeting place.

And it’s not like we learn this stuff in school. It’s not written out anywhere. We have to rely on word of mouth, people with experience, or people like the commenter above you who are familiar with the ins and outs.

The bottom line is that it is complicated on purpose and designed to wear you out so you don’t get coverage for your most basic human needs - like peeing without your urethra being on fire.

The moments before the implosion were something that no one should ever need to feel in their lives.

Just to this point - it would have happened too fast for them to even register anything was happening. Complete destruction would occur in 1/20th of a second. (Per Insider/Naval History Magazine)