All those dang tiny time wasters that happen every day. Needing to eat and drink… That kind of stuff. Can’t stop because I obviously enjoy being healthy.
This isn’t a personal habit but flying. If I could never ever in my life ever have to go through a stupid security theater checkpoint at an airport and then board a plane and sit like a sardine for hours on end…
Too bad I live in public transit shithole USA
I live in the US too, but thanks to my patented secret* I rarely fly at all!
*Being poor
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I believe you that if you’re paying 2x a traditional ticket price you get a better experience, but I would really just prefer high speed rail lines that can service many people at once, not a boutique experience catered to the wealthy.
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Dreading the future.
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Nothing. As in procrastinate by doing basically nothing.
I’m feeling that!! I’m on summer break and i have so many things i need to do - even just simple paperwork that would yield $$ - but i can’t get motivated.
Someone not too long ago asked me how I motivate myself, and I was quite puzzled by the question, like “what do you mean motivate myself? That’s not how motivation works?”, because to me motivation has always come from external sources, like people, situations, experiences etc. But no, apparently some (many? most?) people can somehow motivate themselves. I’d like to have that power please.
intrinsic vs extrinsic motivation.
You never do things for yourself? No hobbies or anything that are basically “pointless” aside from your own personal satisfaction? Never done something to challenge or better yourself with no reward from someone or something else?
yeah but those wont pay the bills
Doesn’t matter, if you do things for yourself that’s intrinsic motivation. Doing it for money, because it pays the bills, or some other reason outside yourself would be an extrinsic motivation.
Of course, I do things because they’re fun to do. But those things don’t require any effort. When people talk about motivating yourself it’s usually about using the motivation as a tool to do things that take a lot of effort.
drifting away from focus
I want to stop ruminating about things I wish I would have said or some stupid thing I did say or why did I do that
Forgiving yourself is difficult. You have grown enough to realize what you did was dumb. Whenever your brain decides to throw a random cringe memory in your face, consciously tell yourself you’re better now and you forgive yourself for your mistakes. It helped me.
That and nearly everyone else has those same thoughts.
My ruminations got so bad after a pretty shitty breakup I had to get help…my journey brought me to medication. Depression and adhd (fluoxetine and vyvanse/adderall) meds brought brain silence that almost made me cry when they started working.
To get out of those spirals, I just remind myself that I’ve probably forgotten hundreds of things other people probably regret saying/doing, and odds are most people probably forgot mine. Even if I’m sure someone didn’t forget it, I doubt they ever think about it anymore.
That might work until you remember that time someone made a fool out of themselves in front of you.
Being angry at the world.
That’s a tough one. Sorry for whatever strated you down that path It can be mentally exhausting and isolating. I hope you figure a way out of it.
Being depressed.
Same. I got kicked out of a therapy group for the self-destructive today, fifth time something like this happened based on rumors that made people in charge think “we make a living encouraging people to be satisfied with life, but this woman doesn’t deserve it.”
It sounds like that those therapy groups suck, honestly.
I’ve never tried groups, but I found a really amazing therapist so they exist, hope you find one who helps you.
Before that stroke of luck, I found a few books that helped me a lot with self sabotaging and other issues. If you’re interested, I could share.
Best of luck out there.
Thanks. People can’t open up these days (or even talk about it) it seems.
Overthinking everything and being a “perfectionist”. So hard to finish or even start doing anything.
Shoot for getting about 70% right. That is about where the rest of the world ends up too. And the world is still turning. No need to drive yourself nuts doing the impossible.
Chewing nicotine gum.
Havent had a smoke in years but trying to give the gum up means I turn into a raging asshole.
Maybe talk to your doctor about bupropion (wellbutrin/zyban). It’s a unique antidepressant medication that work by inhibiting reuptake of norepinephrine and dopamine (other reuptake inhibitors focus mostly on serotonin or norepinephrine). When testing it, they found that many people stopped smoking, so it’s now prescribed for people that want to stop using nicotine. You likey wouldn’t be on it for long, just a few months until you get the cravings to stop and readjust your life to no nicotine.
No way, Ive been on the antidepressant merry-go-round before. They were not a pleasant experience for me.
Same.
When I used nicotine gum what I did was a started switching between the nicotine gum and regular gum. I eventually ran out of nicotine gum and just chewed regular gum for a while. I think the dependency and money is what pissed me off enough to stop, anger is always good motivation.
This is me but with the nicotine mints! I slowly started mixing in other “regular” mints, but it doesn’t have the same kick! So after an extended period of time I get grumpy and just go back to the nicotine mints…
right now, job hunting, but as soon as i can stop job hunting, my answer will change to working.
Job hunting is so extraordinarily awful that I guarantee you I will overstay my welcome when I’m working for my next abusive and micromanaging boss.
I want to stop being a perfectionist. I tend to overthink very simple tasks, trying to make sure I do things in the most efficient manner. Agonize over mistakes. I find it funny that I’m so critical of myself but I would never think to apply that to other people. I’m working on it, it’s just very difficult
“Perfectionism is shame leaving the body.” - The Daily Llama
But seriously, I think the majority of perfectionism is rooted in childhood shame. That comes from family that was overly critical, so we attempted to address it by being perfect. Maybe try messing things up in a safe manner on purpose to behaviorally teach yourself that it’s okay to make mistakes.
Opening Instagram instead of Lemmy or Mastodon :(
Pro tip: delete the app on your phone. Needing to put in the website into the browser breaks the misscle memory and you can then easier replace it with something else.
makes link to Instagram.com on home screen
Unfortunately I haven’t yet convinced all my friends to go elsewhere, so I still need it as a communication platform
I’m surviving without it … People just text me… never had one by choice so don’t know about addiction but as with everything is best to just quit it definitely… Make a post saying you deleting your account and change the password to some random characters … The social pressure of failing even to quit Instagram in front of everyone you know will definitely prevent any slip …
Eating Slim Jims.
How many Slim Jims are you eating, and why do you want to stop?
