My elder has a panic button that is:
“I’m too upset to talk about it right now.”
And that by modern parenting it means timeout. It is though a pretty good idea because once every one has cooled down, it’s easy to talk out why there’s a coat of paint on the tv.
My elder found a loophole: “Did you do a mistake or did you do it on purpose?” “A mistake.” “Ok what was your mistake?” “Em… getting caught?”
Probably still a teachable moment… somehow!? :-P
That’s why you probably should ask an open question like “How did it happen?” And maybe follow up with “What did we learn from it?” or something.
But I’m neither a parent nor an expert so what do I know?
My elder has a panic button that is: “I’m too upset to talk about it right now.” And that by modern parenting it means timeout. It is though a pretty good idea because once every one has cooled down, it’s easy to talk out why there’s a coat of paint on the tv.
That’s actually kind of extremely mature, waiting until you aren’t upset/angry to talk about it takes a lot of maturity and usually helps
The most unforgivable sin, really.