Until yesterday I used to have long hair. Due to unusually high tempetures I started having problems with the skin on my head. So, to avoid problems. I shaved it clean and it will remain that way until the skin in treated.
Now that I’m bald, I now know what’s it’s like. It sucks. My old hair suited me perfectly. It was messy just the right amount, perfect length, made me look different than the rest and handsome as hell. Every girl would look at me where ever I went to. Compliments floating over the air, jealous looks from other men etc. etc. It made me feel powerful.
But most importantly, it suited my personality and clothing. It was perfect! But now it’s gone. I hate bald me. I will never look back at this bald version of myself.
It feels weird. I don’t feel that bad but still it’s disheartening.
Getting older I can only say: looks are overrated. During my time I used to have all kinds of hair styles: metalhead with long hair, medium length, short hair, almost no hair, and right now I have like half a centimeter, because it’s so hot weather and I sweat a lot and felt uncomfortable. Last time I cared about “how do girls look at my hair” was probably in my teens but even then I went against the stream, because metalhead long hair was far from being desirable.
IMO you should focus less on how do other perceive you (your look) and more on how you feel yourself. Having less (no) hair has so many benefits I can’t even think of going back to anything longer than ~inch. Sure I might look dumb, but that feeling of air breeze on my skull is so refreshing I couldn’t care less. Another benefit is much easier care. When I had long hair it felt like a chore to use shampoo, conditioner and brush the hair while it felt almost instantly “in need” of the procedure again. Now? Tsssch, I use whatever: shampoo, regular soap or just water, fast rinse and hair are almost immediately fresh feeling and also dry (huge plus imo).
And the most important note. If you ever find/found a partner who is/was with you just because your fabulous hair, I can assure you it is/was not the right one.
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Own it
If you attach so much of your personality and self-worth on your hair, this is probably for the best. Time to do some inner-reflection and figure out something a bit more meaningful to tether yourself to.
Like his/her massive balls for talking about it somewhere.
The best thing you can do is accept the inevitable. If it’s that important, get over it the same way you would an ex or the death of a loved one. In my case that means round up some friends and go get so drunk that you need to be carried home.
Ah damn, thats ass. I have long thick curly hair that goes down to my mid-back and this heat is also causing a scalp condition of mine to flair up. I just can’t shave it though, don’t have the willpower. I will stay itchy thanks
To echo much already said… As a dude that had magnificent curly locks. I wtarted balding at 18 and now have a hairline of an 18th century monk… If you can shave your head do that. I also have eczema…so that’s out. So hats and just being cool with it. If you try to hide it … people know. Just own that shit. Frankly ladies don’t seem to mind it… Personality goes a long way. Humor goes further
It’s all about attitude and confidence baby. I started losing my hair at 15, had a BALD spot by 18 and by 20 the hair on top was little scraggles. I owned it. People gave me shit for it but that’s typical when you’re abnormal. You learn to joke back and you’ll eventually realize it’s a minor issue and it won’t stop you from being you, which will be the most attractive part to anyone worth your time.
Shave it. I did when mine started going and the maintenance is super easy. I’d never go back.
I started that like 10 years ago, unfortunately I have a funky shaped head so it doesn’t look as good as it may on others but I do enjoy the maintenance on it. I can definitely tell these days it won’t grow back like it used to (much thinner on the top, edging back on the top sides). However being able to use a hair trimmer once a week myself is cheap, and less things to do while getting ready in the morning.
I can understand since society seems to put value on hair but not worrying about it (some confidence) goes a long way. I barely think about it nowadays.
Problems with skin can be treated even without shaving. You don’t need to keep it shaved if you don’t feel good in it. Ask women, they’re used to treating their skin problems without shaving their hair off.
Wig?
There is a Seinfeld episode about this.
“YOU’RE BALD!” 🗣️
well, for one, sunscreen! Sunburnt heads suck. Hats as well.
It took some getting used to (I’ve gone through phases of shaving my head and having long hair. Recently, since I work outside in the heat, I hit it with the clippers every few days leaving just < 1mm. You’ll probably just get used to your new style which will help the confidence which helps everything else.
When I started shaving i went all the way smooth…didnt jive with me. Let it grow and used clippers the next week, set to the closest and that worked great…
You could not ask me to have hair again.
Give yourself a minute…it grows back.
Just think of yourself as Rob Halford for the time being.
