bonus question:

what does it mean to be too online anymore?

    • Septimaeus@infosec.pub
      31·
      2 months ago

      That’s a pretty wide net. Lol has been part of chat and text for ages. Even rarely online individuals instinctively use it in those environments. Or do you mean using it unironically in face to face conversations? Then I’d agree.

      • fubo@lemmy.world
        5·
        2 months ago

        Yeah, spoken “lol” in place of saying “that’s funny” or, y’know, actually laughing.

        • Septimaeus@infosec.pub
          21·
          2 months ago

          Woof, yeah come across that a few times. Some gentle ribbing was usually enough to snap them out of it haha.

    • treadful@lemmy.zipEnglish
      2·
      2 months ago

      I’ve heard someone actually say “poggers” in a real person to person conversation.

  • Vinny_93@lemmy.world
    72·
    2 months ago

    Sometimes I see people rant about people in a way that makes me believe they rarely interact with anyone face to face. Complete lack of anything positive to say about others, can only discuss topics that mean something to themselves, no ability to put themselves in someone else’s shoes.

      • Vinny_93@lemmy.world
        374·
        2 months ago

        Lemmy, reddit, 4chan… You find them all around. If you ask me, it’s likely caused by childhood isolation. Kids who grow up in a tense environment or with certain disorders tend to be outcasts when growing up and this creates a bitterness towards the world.

        It feels unfair that there is a way most people behave towards one another that you can not be a part of. And it’s always easier to blame the environment than to look inward, find out what is causing these feelings and how to combat them. This is easily said when you’re past your 30s, but a 7 year old kid does not have the capacity to do this level of self reflection. So the effects of being an outcast compound. At some point it just becomes easier to direct your anger at faceless strangers and avoid any kind of real social situations. And this, of course, also compounds.

        But that’s just my armchair psychology take on it. I have been somewhat of an outcast up until college (although not nearly as bad as some other kids I’ve met). College was an eye-opener for me due to the acceptance and positivity that was around everyone. I noticed quickly that the happiest folks where the ones who spoke mostly of things they liked. It’s a cliche for a reason, but a positive attitude breeds positivity.

        • MagicShel@programming.dev
          111·
          2 months ago

          I think Lemmy is better about this. Certainly better than Reddit or 4chan. I think because of the small community. There are people itching for a fight or to troll, but by and large I’ve had way more positive interactions here than negative. I think when a community gets sufficiently large, it gets exhausting dealing with so many bitter, damaged people that civility is forgotten or civil members remove themselves as self-care.

          I definitely agree with your last point. Everyone is uplifted by positivity.

          • lennybird@lemmy.worldEnglish
            37·
            2 months ago

            I think the median age is higher here and the mods more mature and experienced.

          • Vinny_93@lemmy.world
            61·
            2 months ago

            I agree Lemmy contains more positivity. I would like to nominate the folks over at Stop Drinking for a positivity award. Also the communities that share wholesome moments. But for most of what I see, it’s bots posting news.

  • Brewchin@lemmy.worldEnglish
    11·
    2 months ago

    Sending me news links that are social media posts containing a link to a news article. Especially if it’s from Xitter: no way I’m logging into that place just to see replies.

    It tells me that they didn’t read the article and that they expect me to care what the shit posters reacting to the headline think.

  • 🇰 🌀 🇱 🇦 🇳 🇦 🇰 ℹ️@yiffit.netEnglish
    6·
    2 months ago

    I’m always online myself and I don’t do any of the things typically memed about with people who are “terminally online.” Shit might have made sense back when the only way to be online was with a computer that you couldn’t just pop out of your pocket while standing in line or taking a shit. With smartphones, though, you can literally be online all day while also living a life.

    • Rai@lemmy.dbzer0.com
      3·
      2 months ago

      The good ol’ days where the only people always online with us were other nerds sitting at computers all day. What a different internet.

  • Zier@fedia.io
    20·
    2 months ago

    Nice try mom! I’m still not cleaning my room. Stay off my forum.

  • KammicRelief@lemmy.worldEnglish
    41·
    2 months ago

    When they seem to think it’s socially acceptable to scroll while hanging out with other people. I usually give the benefit of the doubt–“oh they’re responding to a text… right? oh damn, they are scrolling? and I’m sitting right here with them?”