• peopleproblems@lemmy.world
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      2 months ago

      So this blew my mind, but once I got beyond the whole “my ex doesn’t love me, she ruined my life” the whole thing of single 4eva disappeared. It turns out, you, as an individual, need to love yourself first, before anyone else can.

      Know why? Cause only you can advocate for all of your qualities and issues.

      I’m discovering a lot about me. I don’t have the time or energy for a significant other right now, so I should be single. Sure I have physical desires, but with creativity you can get through that.

            • Rayquetzalcoatl@lemmy.world
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              The commenter was saying they reckoned it’d take one night of DND or a chat over discord to find a bunch of reasons that you are loveable. I know it can be hard to stay optimistic but I’m sure that, like almost everyone else, there are good things about you that people like

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      Same.

      I only really ever had two goals in life and I managed to fail them stupendously:

      1)Not be the guy who’s miserable every day and doesn’t want to wake up to go to work.

      2)To be in a loving relationship.

      1 is making 2 even more difficult. On second thought it’s like an ouroboros, 1 makes 2 more difficult which compounds the misery of 1 lol