Hurricane in Florida. A work friend invited my mom and I to stay at her place if it got bad. I’d spent time with her and her husband before, and thought we would have a good time playing games and hanging out.
It started to get bad, so we headed over. She didn’t answer the door or phone. Finally she comes out, says we woke her up (it’s 3pm) and laughed at us getting “freaked out” by a little wind. Guess we were supposed to wait for the full hurricane force winds before driving across town. Spent the remainder of my birthday on the closet floor with mom and dog.
Got the flu and had to cancel my birthday movie party. Most of my friends went to go see the movie anyway. It was the Bee Movie
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Party was cancelled because my grandpa died
Ouch. I’m only one comment in and hitting a tough one. I’m sorry that happened to you =(
I spent my ninth birthday at a funeral home because my grandfather died two days earlier.
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I’ve done this for a few years - if anyone asks what I want, it’s to spend time with my kid and I’ll get myself something frivolous.
- now that kids are teens and there’s only one left at home, I’ll take any of his time I can get
- I’m a geek, a gadget freak, and I realized long ago that my interests are specific enough to not be worth explaining to people
This year I’m buying myself a new iPad. That’s also well over the limit for gifts (I used to take my ex on trips for hers so she’d have experiences in addition to gifts, but that cost is somewhat hidden)
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I’ve been considering a 3D printer for a few years but have no interest in Warhammer models. Seriously, every once in a while I’ll look online to see if I can find a purpose for a 3D printer. Not so far.
With the tablet on the other hand, with streaming and a family of varied interests, I got used to media consumption on an iPad (and either a speaker or headphones, depending). At this point, my TV is more a waste of money, because no one ever watches it. I no longer have any form of stereo, nor a desktop computer, and my laptop is less convenient for media. After seven years, my iPad no longer gets updates and has slowed way down - actually I wonder if there’s something wrong with the WiFi on it. It’s time.
I’ve honestly found Lemmy really refreshing that I can talk about really anything and there is someone that is interested. It’s been nice to vent.
For sure. Sometimes it’s easier to relate to a bunch of strangers with shared interests than those in our lives who have different interests
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So there I was, sitting on an ammo can, in Iraq. I actually didn’t know it was that day until we had to write down a record of rounds expended.
NOTHING.
I was called a freak by my mother and father who told me I would never be a woman, that I’m a man pretending to be a woman. That I was destroying my body by doing HRT. Average shit from right-wing parents. And they wonder why I don’t talk to them anymore. Maybe your daughter hates you because you refuse to accept her, and repeatedly deadname and misgender her whenever she called you.
Yeah that was most definitely my worst birthday, so glad I cut those dipshits out of my life.
Two of my immediate family members died.
The state I live in went into COVID lockdown on my 40th birthday
On my 18th birthday I was homeless and living in a truck.
But it was okay cuz I was out of a terribly abusive situation and my mental health was improving.
And I went to my friend’s house only to find out that they had all been arrested for robbing a McDonald’s.
Truth is, I had known about the robbery after the fact, they had told me about it two days before my birthday.
I had cautioned my friends that they should not go out and spend the money they had stolen right away, if their activities change and it made them look suspicious, it increased their chances of getting caught.
This was a small time deal, they each got like $600.
They went out the very next day and blew it all.
They were arrested that night after the detective that McDonald’s had hired to follow them kept track of all of their purchases and showed up at their door with the police in tow.
It’s so pathetic it still makes me cringe.
So anyway I spent my birthday alone in my truck. It made me sad because you know that was the day I officially became an adult and all these years later I’m kind of still alone so I guess maybe it set a bad precedent that I could not overcome.
Shit, I’m sorry to hear that. Homeless at 18 is pretty brutal. I hope you find your people or a partner that makes everything worthwhile. Life can be good and amazing, but IMHO it’s not something to do alone.
I met a guy online, and we arranged to meet up for our 1st date. It went well, and during it we exchanged birthdates. Mine was the next week, so he said he’s take me out for my birthday!
The day arrives, we meet up at the same place, and after my inquiry he says we’re to a New Mexican restaurant for dinner, then to a Country & Western bar a few blocks away for some dancing. Well All RIGHT! (I did tell him I didn’t know how/hadn’t been before, but was willing to give it a go.)
At the end of dinner he asks the waiter for separate checks. I look puzzled, and he asks why. “Well, it’s a little unusual to be taken out for your birthday and have to split the check…”
“Oh, I forgot it’s your birthday. I don’t have enough money to cover this.” So I end up paying for my meal.
Tip: If this happens to you end that date immediately! I don’t, so we continue the date and go dancing.
Turns out he doesn’t like line dancing, and doesn’t lead, so he won’t line dance with me trying to learn to line dance. We have one regular dance together, which he ends mid-song, because I’m not leading right.
For the rest of the ‘date’ I get to sit there, buying my own drinks, watching him dance with others, and having drinks bought for him by those others.
I went home alone after a few miserable hours…
Was born
When my SO bought me a present for my fortieth birthday that was something I would never use and clearly was for him (a rare bottle of bourbon), but he pretended it was a shared interest of ours. I don’t hate bourbon or anything but I very seldom drink any, maybe once a year, and I have yet to drink any from that bottle. It was wildly selfish.
Then when I turned 49 I got up that morning, and he asked me snarkily if I would be pretending if I was 39 for the rest of my life as some sort of hilarious joke about vanity. I am not vain at all and I don’t care how old I am, I loved my forties and have enjoyed my fifties so far.
I don’t pretend to know the complexities of your adult relationship; but from the two paragraphs I’ve read I’d say it might be time to get out of dodge if you can/want to.
Can’t because of money. Thanks though.
