It’s been a long ol time since I’ve known any lesbians well enough to ask such things, but I followed my brain down a weird line of inquiry, and got to wondering about the current state of the art for the gay gals. I guess I had always assumed it was similar to the dynamics of a gay guy relationship, but then I realized that since men have both an input and an output, they can choose, but it’s mechanically a bit different for cis women. Is there any relationship between that, and the slightly more masculine versus feminine flavors? Asking for a friend, who is me. I want to know. Thanks.
I’ve seen people (lesbians) talk about it, so I’m leaning toward “yes they can but not always”, but I cannot give an authoritative answer as I am not a lesbian.
I don’t think you can give a authoritative answer unless you personally are ‘all’ of the lesbians.
A lesbian couple on Twitch got asked who the top and who the bottom was. They said they switched.
No idea what that means mechanically.
Probably like a Nintendo Switch
Is that the one where you slide the joycons in and out trying to get the console to recognize and assign the joycons?
And there’s an affable Miyamoto head smiling down on them like mufasa
No, at that time they didn’t have a Nintendo Switch yet. A PS5 for Baldur’s Gate 3 was their first console.
You might want to differentiate between Top, Bottom, Switch and Top, Bottom, Versatile, i.e. BDSM vs penetration positions.
I’d also say that this is less about physiology and more about the individual acceptance of the concept of position.
Top, Bottom, Versatile is not necessarily a queer thing, since (cis&trans) heterosex can have positions as well. That is to say, not all queer relationships regardless of gender follow the concept of position.
It’s not just a position thing. It’s just that everyone exists either left or right of the center on the spectrum of ‘mostly giver vs mostly receiver/passive’ spectrum. The gay male community has taken to the terms of Top and Bottom to articulate ones usual preferences, and I was just curious if lesbians had come up with a similar canvas, or if it just doesn’t come up as much with them as it does for guys.
Yes, but less so than with gay men. A lot of lesbians won’t identify as either, since penetrative sex is not super common with lesbians, but there are also some lesbians with a strong preference to either penetrate or be penetrated and not the other way round.
C’mon OP, every sort of human sexual interaction has dynamics like this. Top or bottom, submissive or dominant, switching it up, all that, we humans do it.
You sound like an alien on its first trip to earth trying to “blend in”
“Is it for fun? What isbenefit?”
I suppose this question better than the previous generation’s “So which one of you is the man?”
In addition to the cis lesbian explanations below, don’t forget about our trans lesbian friends.
How could I possibly.
I don’t think there’s any group that doesn’t have some members who like domination. But I’m just speculating and am not an expert.
Well I, on the other hand, AM an Expert Dominator.
Scissor-me-timbers
Plunder the Booty
i think it’s more of a face/heel dynamic
the top is the one who has to go get the electrolyte water from the fridge when you’re both out of breath
I’m very much a lesbian and can confirm we are flatlanders. I get left and right, front and back, but top and bottom? Completely foreign concepts.
Seriously though. It seems to me very popular among young lesbians to talk about tops and bottoms, but I’m a bit older (around 40) and that was never really a thing for me or the people around me.
Fascinating. Are you able to rotate axially parallel to your allowed dimensions of travel, or does this require some degree of bi-curiosity to accomplish?
I can no more do this than you can freely move through a fourth spatial dimension
I read this in Mr. Spock’s voice.
This is awesome! I am adding in bridge sci-fi noises. Data also works.
That seems logical and stuff.
Me and my gal do have a top/bottom dynamic but it’s not very strong, like it’s just flirting and foreplay.
There is no top or bottom when we do anything physically sexual, we just do it together and that’s great :)
Hi! Not strictly a lesbian here but in a lesbian relationship. Yes, lesbians have top/bottom dynamics typically in the “one doing the action” vs the “one being acted upon” across various different acts. Most switch it up (“vers”), rather than identifying primarily as tops or bottoms. If you are strictly a top or strictly a bottom, you’re described as “stone” as in “stone top” or “stone bottom”.
Very important that these are completely different roles than dominant/submissive/switch, which are BDSM terms and describe a more psychological aspect of a relationship than the more physical top/bottom/vers.
I always wondered where Steve Austin got his name from.
I always assumed it was his nickname from when he worked at the creamery.
Nope. Turns out he’s just a very inflexible lesbian. Who knew?
I mean looking at him I can see how he’s not very flexible…
Whatever you say, Stone Cold Growsomethinggood
You’ll find that in queer culture, there’s not just top/bottom but a wide spectrum to define or describe preferences; I’m sure this all also applies to the BDSM world as well. There’s a variety of tops and bottoms and preferences like Bambi lesbians who don’t want sexual dynamics beyond cuddling and kissing.
Ya, but why is everyone jumping to BDSM? That’s not what I asked. I’ve never heard the term before, but I feel like “Bambi lesbian” is kinda reinventing the wheel for the sake of a cute name. Isn’t that just a romantic asexual with a gay modifier?
Bambi is an old term, older than me. It predates descriptions like homoromantic asexual, so not reinventing the wheel at all
I think the reason people are jumping to BDSM community terms is because BDSM people fucking love terms. They’ve got taxonomy for days, and they live to whip it out, so to speak.
It’s also because like half the time a woman refers to herself as topping a woman that’s the context
it kind of is, as far as i can tell, or at least it’s adjacent, though the term actually predates modern asexual nomenclature, and the split-attraction model, which didn’t really take off until the internet did. ‘bambi lesbian’ has merely had a resurgence in recent years because it sounds cute as hell.
It also seems to be additional evidence that Rule 34 predates the internet.
i don’t see the relation to rule 34
Just the idea of sexualizing nonsexual things for no reason and/or it’s funny.
All right, then. Keep your secrets.
