I don’t know if anyone else has this problem but I have a really pacific issue. In general just I suck at talking. I find it hard to put my thoughts to words, I never know what words to use and I never know what to say.

I talk like xQc irl and the act of using words to hard I’m always slurring them out even tho I try not to and I have a stutter and a slip so saying thing is very hard.

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    Practice by reading out loud slowly and enunciating like you want a child to understand you. Do the same with others’ speeches, as they were written to be said out loud. If they are recorded in an accent that is in the neighborhood of your goal, even better - you can practice talking exactly like a recording.

    Even though this isn’t off-the-cuff speaking, you will likely adopt verbal patterns that let your words flow more freely.

    You can also join clubs that are dedicated to speaking to other people. If all else fails, something like toastmasters, though that’s specifically about public speaking.

    If this doesn’t go well, that’s also okay. You might want to look into a speech therapist if practice doesn’t help.

  • ☆ Yσɠƚԋσʂ ☆@lemmy.ml
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    Like anything, it’s practising doing it. Incidentally, this is one place using a chat bot might help you. These things are pretty good at carrying a conversation, and if you’re not comfortable talking to a person, it could be a good way to practice.

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    I as a teen worked in a retail computer store Having to constantly interact with people really give you a sense of being able to communicate better. That or any job where you have to teach someone something.

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    One really neat trick is to slow down and even pause words. This really helps me get my point across.

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    Freeze

    Another response to danger is your body hitting the pause button altogether. The freeze response involves becoming immobilized or “freezing” in response to a threat. This can involve a state of paralysis or being unable to move. It’s thought that this response might have evolved as a way to avoid being noticed by a predator or to remain still in the hopes that the threat will pass by.

    https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-happens-to-your-body-during-the-fight-or-flight-response

    I would suggest emailing improv groups around you to see if you could join a class that’s supportive. Make sure to ask the teacher ahead of time so you can get a feel for if they’d be good for you or not and if they’re willing to work with you. If you could take a friend that’s interested as well, that would help for you to work with someone you trust.

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    I’ve done toastmasters a long time a go, and it really benefits me till today.

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    I talk like xQc

    Just looked up this guy and this seems obvious, Twitch.tv is the inverse of literacy and coherence. Stop fucking gaming and watching streams.

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      Never watch his stuff. He’s content is the most brain dead dribble you’ve ever seen. He’s like some the white version of jinx. When I say he does reaction content I mean that in the most literal sense. He literally sits there and watches things and adds absolutely nothing. If you watch xQc you may as well go to the local movie theatre and look at the guy next to you. It has the same entertainment value and at least then you get to socialise.

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        That’s a wonderful mental image I feel like I understand high ranking streamers without watching them now

        Also I searched Ukraine out of curiosity and he actually reacted to an HBO doc made by a rapist and an obvious fed military journalist 👁️👄👁️

        I don’t know what to do with this info. Probably fed to him to promote. Gaming streamers becoming political commentators to find a way out of esports is so fucking weird to me still.

        https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JxAQY6N5zvQ

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          I wouldn’t even compare him to political streamers at least with political streamers like Vaush, BadEmpanada and Hasan they add something to the experience. They don’t just watch random content on they find on YouTube. There’s a trend now of them watching Master Chef. That TV show from like 2004. Just regular network TV.

          Also, did the guy who made that documentary really a R*pist? How do you know?

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              I didn’t hear about it. Who was the dictator? Was it Roman Polanski? Bryan Singer?

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                Andrew Callaghan, not Hanrahan is the guy who was being weird at afterparties. The main Channel 5 guy who says he has persistent hallucinogenic symptoms. His fans stood by him 🤕

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                  I know about that guy. He’s a R*pist? Explains why is disappeared all the sudden

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        Wait a second…you post saying you don’t know how to word good, and then you carry on a whole thread of conversation here with plenty good word. Very suspicious.

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    Given the context of your post, I would suggest starting with the basics. Taking the time to learn how to write properly may give you some ability to speak properly.

    I have a really pacific issue

    I don’t know if this is typo or if you think your issue is as big as the ocean.

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      Given the context of the post, that they’re asking for help, picking on this seems needless and unsympathetic. Given their own acknowledged problems with speech I don’t see why making a joke about their writing would seem helpful or appropriate.

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          You deadly seriously didn’t know if they were talking about the Pacific Ocean? In a post about someone who has trouble speaking clearly, in a reply clearly establishing you were aware there were writing errors, zeroing in on a word well known to be accidentally substituted for the word “specifically” by some speakers. You deadly seriously didn’t know?

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    Speech pathology for the stutter and the slip. You can find some free help online but be careful, trying to fix speech issues on your own can make things worse in some cases. If you can, seek professional input.

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      trying to fix speech issues on your own can make things worse in some cases. If

      Just remember the golden rule: nothing with your voice is supposed to hurt. If it hurts, then stop

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    I talk like xQc irl

    🤣 Sorry not laughing at you, I’m laughing with you. I kinda felt that.

    Remember that in real life, conversations isn’t like in movies. Dialogue isn’t so perfect with flowery proses. Real conversations often have incomplete sentences, a lot of “um…” filler words. And there often like frequent pauses when my brain just has to process thoughts before I can say it. Life is like that, is normal.

    What made me less anxious and just go “IDGAF” is just I realized that I am a mortal being and I will eventually die, I kinda had an existential crisis for a while, then I was just like: if everyone just dies, all embarassing moments just gets forgotten

    Like you can piss yourself or shit your pants, look foolish in a live audience of millions of people, say stupid things… whatever. Doesn’t matter, everything is temporary. Being a bit nihilistic just allow you to be yourself. Nothing matter anyways, do what you feel like (except harming others, don’t harm other living being please).

    I mean not to get political, but just look at politicians say stupid things all the time.

    The president of the US fell down a bunch of staird, people laughed, the internet memed it a bit, everyone kinda just went on.

    And most of us doesn’t have the whole world watching is. If I fell down a bunch of stairs, most people that saw it would just forget very soon. Samething with speech, as long as you don’t say anything thats bigoted, nobody care about speech mistakes.

    TLDR: Life is short, do whatever you want as long as it doesn’t harm other living beings. Make mistakes all you want, doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things.

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    I don’t know if anyone else has this problem but I have a really pacific issue.

    The word you want here is “specific”. 👍

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    I’ve struggled with putting my thoughts into words almost my whole life. Only in the last 2-3 years I started to actually get better (I’m 28 soon).

    What could help is

    • If you managed to find words for a thought write them down somewhere (I used phone notes for this)
    • Not sure about this one, but maybe reading books out loud might help (doesn’t have to be with anyone present)

    I did both of these occasionally, but I think what actually helped me here was LSD, which I don’t recommend unless you’ve properly researched the (side-) effects, are aware of all the risks and have trusted source to get it from.

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    If you legitimately speak like xQc, the first thing I’d tell you is to slow the hell down. That guy would probably get as much information out in the same amount of time, but easier to understand, if he just didn’t try speaking that fast. Last I heard it, even his québécois french was slurred.

    As to finding the right words when speaking, it tends to come with knowing your subject well enough, and having decent vocabulary.

    Past that, if you do struggle with the very act of translating ideas into the physical act of speaking, it could be a speech disorder which could likely benefit from speech therapy.

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    Learn new languages. Learn to code.

    May not solve your problem, but will help.

    Also, read books.