• EndlessApollo@lemmy.world
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    28 days ago

    A big one I’ve heard and kinda experience myself is that most porn is made for men. Most straight porn is made to appeal to straight men, and so is most lesbian porn, and of course gay porn is generally made for gay men. Porn by and for women does exist, but it’s a lot less common outside of written erotica

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        28 days ago

        As a woman, mutual enjoyment. Like it needs to look like they’re actually having fun. And that goes extra for stuff like bdsm porn where there’s been enough monstrous shit that got by (honestly I really don’t consume bdsm porn much outside of places where I feel it’s safe to assume mutual enjoyment because of this despite being very into it irl).

        Also on the lesbian porn part, I want to see women that look and act like they’re actually having lesbian sex. Like, a woman who doesn’t skip arm day, being playful then doing some muff diving.

        I mostly read my porn for a reason.

        ETA: also the misogyny in a lot of porn is a massive turn off. Especially because it’s often unprompted.

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            26 days ago

            Is there muff diving in it? I get what you’re saying but I want the emotions and to watch two people fucking. If you’ve seen season 2 of arcane there’s a scene that was very nice and if it kept going from the “tv sex scene” and into the pornographic it would’ve been excellent. I’ve also seen some avant garde feminist porn from like the 70s that involved actresses directing and everyone on set being naked to ensure nobody was more vulnerable than anyone else and it was pretty hot.

            And yeah I do love some good pornographic literature. It allows for a scene to be set effectively and with a good writer it’s not much worse than had it been video. Like sure I’d love to see people doing it, but ok cliterature is far better than ok video

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        28 days ago

        Probably something that focuses on things that feel good to the women part? I mean there is a whole category of “Female friendly porn”. And I suppose there are lots of things that feel very different depending on if you’re at the giving, or receiving end of the “rod”. If the “actor” slaps someone with that, it’d depend which character in the film you’re empathizing with. And it’d be either arousing or annoying to you. And that’s mainly your perspective doing that.