It can be low effort, passive-aggressive, insulting or derogatory towards your convictions.

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    5 days ago

    That sounds a bit petty from you, at least from my POV.

    No matter how nerdy you are, going outside is healtht, both physically and mentally. They got you a nice gift, IMO.

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        4 days ago

        I didn’t like a gift that demonstrated zero understanding of who I was or what I would have wanted.

        There was no attempt to talk to me about going outside more or getting more exercise, I have always been pretty skinny and reasonably healthy, and at no point did I indicate that I didn’t go outside or wasn’t active.

        But I’m sure you understand my parents and their motivations better than I do.
        Lenny moment.

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      4 days ago

      They got me something I had no interest in and were upset I wasn’t using it. Ever hear the phrase “it’s the thought that counts”? It demonstrated zero thought into what I would actually be interested in.

      It’s like buying a teen a set of knitting needles and being surprised that they didn’t start knitting with them.

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        4 days ago

        Well it might have been a thought about what would be good for you (to their belief), but to be upset that it didn’t just make you want to use seems a but naïve.

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        4 days ago

        Ever hear the saying “Don’t look a gift horse into the mouth”?

        It demonstrated plenty of thought.

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          4 days ago

          I know nothing about horses. I won’t look this gift horse in the mouth because I don’t know know what I’m looking at, but I’m also not going to be thrilled with the horse you’ve gifted me that I have no idea what to do with.

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              3 days ago

              Thanks tips.

              My point is if someone did show up at your house gifting you a horse for Christmas it would be appropriate for you to respond with “what am I supposed to do with this?” And someone telling you “it’s a nice gift, be thankful for it” would be an unreasonable response.

              It’s an example that not every gift is thoughtful just because it’s a gift.