I have heard from multiple people that eye contact is essential in letting a girl (or guy, I guess) know you’re interested.
But what is the 411 when it comes to said eye contact? Do you keep looking until she does? Do you then keep staring? Or is like looking at the sun? What’s the deal?
Adding a smile goes a long way, or at least it used to.
You won’t get good answers on social cues from Lemmy. You might get good Linux tips though.
LinusSexTips
How does one patch KDE2 under FreeBSD?
Linux != FreeBSD
Probably using ports, but it depends on the version.
Sure 😏 (Public key already on my profile, if you want)
Why won’t you send me your private key? Don’t you trust me? 🥺💔😭
---BEGIN PGP PRIVATE KEY--- hunter2 ---END PGP PRIVATE KEY---😉
Fair enough, what Linux command do you use to make eye contact?
touch eyesThis is inappropriate on so many levels:
- If there are eyes and you touch them it’s wrong.
- If a person doesn’t have eyes touching where they are isn’t going to be a winning strategy either
- If you touch a file in Linux called eyes and create it people will be very confused
- If there’s already an existing file called eyes that’s disturbing. What? Why?
cat eyesof Sauron [elrond@rivendell ~] runuser -l guest.frodo -c '/home/guest.frodo/ring.sh' cat eyes cat: no such file or directory
export DISPLAY=:0; xeyes
Bruh just use screen
I love the errors you get and the timing of the errors
lmao!
Eye contact is basic human communication of “I’m cool with you.” Don’t rely on it to express romantic interest. Avoiding eye contact can express a lot of things, most of them negative. Sure, you can express more with a look but it can come off creepy if you don’t have a rapport with that person.
Make eye contact when talking to or listening to all people you like. That’s just basic social interaction. If you’re interested in someone romantically, tell them—ask them out.
There’s no secret handshake or look. Talk to them.
There’s no secret handshake or look. Talk to them.
Oh absolutely, I’m just looking to make a spark (like making eye contact) and let my social skills be the fuel. Or not, if she’s not interested.
Any advice for autistic people who are uncomfortable with eye contact?
The image actually comes from an eye contact practise video
I don’t know if it actually works or not. But I heard that looking between someone’s eyes or slightly upon their forehead also helps.
As far as I know I’m not autistic, but hate eye contact and just kinda decided to not worry about it? Eye contact is cultural anyway, and in some countries it’s unusual or rude so I guess I just decided it’s not that important to me. That’s one option!
But for practical advice on improving if that’s what you want to strive for I find it’s easier to practice with someone you’re comfortable with. Looking between their eyes while talking casually. Not like staring, but reminding yourself to look up occasionally during conversation. And increasing the length of time you hold eye contact until it’s uncomfortable and look away. It’ll become more natural to you over time :)
There’s also videos available on YouTube that are for practicing eye contact but I found them creepy. My mistake was probably smoking weed beforehand, so maybe don’t do that!
Best of luck to you!
The trick is to never look away. Stare till they notice, then keep staring. Have to get up to use the restroom? Maintain eye contact as long as possible and reestablish it the moment you’re back in sight. If they get up, the responsibility to maintain that eye contact is on you. Make sure to stay within eyesight, following them if necessary. This is your chance, we’re rooting for you!
It’s not just eye contact, there’s all the rest of it too including other body language and how you’re speaking to someone.
That said, I used to occasionally hang with a guy that chased all the girls (the kind of guy that would ignore you as soon as a girl he could be interested in showed up) and he would all but stare at her in conversation. Made me uncomfortable by proxy, lol. Seemed effective, but that’s what he did.
Snap snap grin grin wink wink nudge nudge say no more! Know what I mean, nudge nudge?
First you need to approach in a non threatening way. Ideally, by shouting “I am bigger and stronger than you! If I wanted you dead, you’d be by now!”
That way they know you are NOT a threat
If possible, make them feel secure by brandishing a weapon of any kind. That way they know they WILL be safe near you
Next! Wrist control!
Ah yes, the pufferfish method.
The idea is that y’all both Exchange a glance long enough to both notice, short enough to not creep each other out. A subtle smile to seal the deal.
Then go say hi to confirm.
If you feel awkward at any point either you suck or the answer is no, that’s where the real skills is at IMHO
The fact that your autocorrect is capitalizing Exchange makes me think you’ve had some bad times.
Not OP but I’ll often rework what I’ve written and sometimes a word that was the start of a sentence is no longer the start, but fuck, doing it all on mobile can be a pain in the ass and I don’t always notice or bother to correct it.
I just assumed it meant they were working on Exchange servers which is a guaranteed bad time.
I feel awkard at literally all times, even when alone. Got any tips for that, aside from not sucking?
My opinion is that nothing insincere works, and you’d better find that interest inside yourself and allow it to guide you. Even if you won’t manage a lot of eye contact.
But admittedly I have a diagnosis and I don’t have a girlfriend.
find that interest inside yourself
I looked in my asshole but found something else entirely. Where is can I look? What other spot can I pick?
I suppose you don’t really need a girlfriend with such looking skills.
Who is this picture of? She looks familiar.
Is she a movie star?
Okay this isn’t working I just sucked face with my phone for like a minute.
Yup same here, that’s why I wanted to make this post.
There are plenty of videos out there on body language or “non verbal communication”. A common one which i picked up on long ago and to myself referred to as “the uppy/downy” look is what you want. It’s a clue someone MIGHT be into you when they make eye contact, look away (usually down), then make eye contact again. Allegedly they are checking you out, looking away, then looking to see if you’re still looking. It’s fair to say it works both ways.
All eye contact is “I am interested in you” eye contact.
To do this, you look at the person’s eyes while they are looking at yours.
