If you are in the US… Learn how to drive already. The vast majority of adults are going to drive every day, and most of those are going to drive at least twice a day. The degree of competency in driving seems to fall to a new low every year.
Signals - Use them. If you don’t have time to check, signal, check, maneuver, then you don’t have time to make that turn/lane change. If you don’t signal, you’re not driving, you’re just fucking around in a 2 ton death machine.
Distracted driving - it’s a myth. You’re either driving, or you are fucking around in a 2 ton death machine.
Turning from wrong lane/driving across onramp shoulder - know where where the fuck you are, and if you make a wrong turn, don’t endanger your life, your passengers lives, and every else’s on the road. A good driver rarely misses their turn, a bad driver never misses their turn. If you are cutting people off to make your ramp or turn, you’re not driving, you’re fucking around in a 2 ton death machine.
Frankly, I’m of the opinion that speeding should not be a primary offense. If the road is clear and some dude checking his lanes, using signals and paying attention to the road wants to drive 110 on the freeway, let him. They’ve never almost killed me, but idiots in cars fucking around on the road like they are the only people on the road nearly cause me an accident almost every day I drive now. I rarely get through the day without using my horn to wake up some jackass about to kill someone, and those people should get pulled over, fined, and have their behavior corrected.
Edit: Also automatic lights were a mistake and they should be banned.
I would add proper lane usage and following distance. If you’re on a multi-lane road you should be passing the people on your right. If you’re not, get over to the right lane. Leave enough space in front of you to stop in case of an emergency, this also helps with congestion as the space allows you to keep rolling at a slower speed rather than having to stop and go which propagates to everyone behind you (unless they leave enough space to not have to stop) and causes a bigger delay.
Generally agree, although worth noting that which side you pass on depends on which side of the road people use to drive in your country. In the US, driving on the right means overtaking on the left. One could say that generally the advice is to drive in outermost lanes (closer to the road shoulder) unless overtaking in lanes further from the shoulder.
Remember heavier cars take longer to stop so you need that 18 wheeler in front if you passing things 10+ seconds before you so that you don’t collide ifvthey suddenly hit the brakes.
I should, but I had to stop somewhere, rather than just post a cranky version of the DMV driver education manual, So I arbitrarily stopped where I did. Feel free to chime in and gripe about idiots almost killing us daily though.
Sorry if my reply came off as argumentative. I thought your post was very good.
No, no, you’re fine. I just stopped where I stopped. You’re spot on that bunching up in lanes causes jams.
I try to drive with the mentality that lanes should be “permeable”, cars should have sufficient space to make easy moves between lanes. When you get a solid line of cars, people start driving the same way deer try to cross a highway.
Bate
Computers.
We have them around us every day. We carry them in our pockets every day. Our lives and all of society relies on them. People have been growing up with them, and can’t imagine a life without them.
So imagine my distress at how everyone is so incredibly tech illiterate.
Empathy
Being able to swim.
Was recently driving a bunch of other girls to our university maintenance class after it had poured and we came to a part of the road where it descends into a depression before fully rising back up. That day the depression was flooded, making a lagoon. The back-up road would take us an extra 30 kilometers around, so after briefly stopping, I decided to rush forward and go through the water. Every last passenger started silently panicking (silently enough I didn’t notice) and one threw up out of fear, and thinking it was car sickness, I stopped the vehicle, which made everyone panic more and try to “abandon ship” because they thought the vehicle was going down and need help because it was the areas beside the road which were actually deep. And here I am thinking “this place is as wet and flood-prone as Hurricane Harbor, what have you been doing all your life that you can’t swim”. If someone can’t, why?
This has been a mandatory part of the Swedish schools for many decades.
Sadly, due to migration, new culture norms and parents have stopped bringing their children to school when they know it is swimming on the schedule due to boys/girle sharing the same pool.
So wait, school isn’t mandatory in Sweden of all places? How does that work?
The answer for me amounts to shame. Being in that scenario once did not help.
How has it been a day and no one mentioned musical instruments? Harmonising body and mind to achieve immaterial bliss.
I practiced for decades and it only frustrated me
Which instrument did you torture yourself with?
Understanding nuance and then applying said understanding in communication with others.
I can’t begin to mention how often people need to know something but won’t accept how non-yes-or-no the answer might be.
Exactly. I always say that nearly everything that exists in life does so within the grey area between black and white.
not anymore it seems.
Sewing
You’ll save yourself so much money and time mending clothes, blankets, and doing your own mods instead of buying new things.
Money, sure. Time. I’m not convinced.
You can mend holes in 5-15 minutes, it takes longer to find and buy new ones
Maybe with some practice. I know some basic sewing and can do some crude stuff in 5-15 minutes. If it was something I were going to wear to, say, work I would have to spend some time learning stitch patterns, getting the right thread etc. I also am not great at organization so no matter how many times I buy sewing supplies they always get shoved away to some place I can’t remember.
My wife is working on the sewing room so maybe I will be better orginized in the future. I’m actually excited about it but it’s not like it took us 30 mins to throw everything together.
I started mending my clothes a while back. I’m not great at it but for the most part it’s passable enough to wear out in public and the process of sewing it is actually really relaxing. It’s nice to be able to save something that would otherwise be tossed out. Also I was able to turn an old t-shirt into dust covers for some of my PC peripherals I don’t use all the time which I was pretty proud of.
Yeah, I have a pair of jeans where the crotch wore out recently. Took me ten minutes to add a double-seam to it. Saved me at least $50. (All by hand, no machine.)
It’s such a useful skill!
I’ve got a hoodie that looks like Frankenstein at this point but it’s my comfort clothes. I think all the stitches give it character.
I love not having to throw old things I love away. I have a Star Wars shirt I’ve worn hundreds of times over the last ten years and the pits are wearing away. I just keep stitching them up, but probably should just patch them.
My wife laughs at me for mending clothes. I often darn socks, jeans, sweaters, etc. - takes about 10 minutes but dang, I just saved $80 on a new pair of jeans. DUH.
My jr high school made the boys take ‘home economics’ and the girls had to take shop class. We all thought it was a joke but, 40 years later, I can still sew and shank a button, fix a tear in jeans, and make a pan of muffins with the best of them.
Pretty great, huh?
Jeans maybe but socks would bother me soo much…
A properly darned sock doesn’t feel any different from a new sock. And if you match the color of the yarn, it can be nearly invisible.
I think visible mending is more fun – my husband’s socks have colorful little patches that make us both smile.
I feel you but honestly, you don’t even notice.
I learned to sew in my early 50s. Very helpful. I also leaned to… solder (small electronics) which is also a great way to save a lot of money, and to generate so much less waste.
Breathing air
It’s true tho.
Bruh, I have trouble with this basic survival task. I blame covid (not even sure if its covid but gotta blame something)
Control of your attention. Because it is the axis of reality.
baiting…
At which point do you decide you’ve become a master and no longer a Padawan?
You can be a padawan and still be a master baiter. It’s the jedi who can’t do that.
Serious question. What’s with those fucking bait shops in the seedy parts of town. What the fuck is going on in there. Do they sell like baits that will catch magical fish but you have to like make a deal with the devil?
I dunno, I usually go to the
candy shopmarijuana gummy dispensary shop for my bait…Worms pretty much grow themselves. It’s cheap money
Meditation. It helps with self-control, emotional regulation, stress, and builds discipline. Screen addiction is real, and meditation helps.
Every time I’ve tried, I just end up sitting there.
That’s kind of what it is. Just try to think of nothing. I just think about the air going into and out of my lungs.
I do that every day though :/
Experiment with different techniques. There’s a method there that you can get a handle on.
What are the options?
We have 2 techniques. The Buddhists call them samatha and vipassana. They go by other names, in other traditions, too.
We start with samatha, because it’s easy. Just takes diligent effort.
In samatha you hold your attention upon a thing (called your “object”) as perfectly as you can for a time.
You can use pretty much anything as your object. But some work better than others and some work differently for different people.
So experimentation is called for there.
Popular objects are mantras (a repeated word), visualizations, sights (like a candle flame), sounds (the wind in the trees), the feeling of breath in the tip of your nose. Lots of room for experimentation there. I like that last one especially.
Here’s a nice overview : http://fleen.org/fluffy_cloud (he calls the techniques “shrink” and “grow”). A couple nice books on the subject are “Journey of Awakening” by Ram Dass and “Meditation, the First and Last Freedom”, by Osho.
Ultimately you will need to do your own research, perform your own experiments and become your own expert.Is there a variation for people who have aphantasia (assuming it’s talking about visualization)?
In that first technique you hold your attention on a thing as perfectly as you can for a time.
That thing can be a visualization or it can be any of a hundred other things.
My favorite is the feeling of breath in the tip of my nose. It’s a popular one. No visualization required there.
World Domination
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Themselves.
I haven’t even begun to peak
The only answer here I agree with.
There’s no specific task, job or skill everyone needs to master. Everyone should know the basics of a lot of things, but the only thing you really need to master is yourself.
Good comment 5/5 would give free silver
Just want to point out, I said try to master, there’s a distinction. Love you.
Yes, that’s how I interpreted it.
I’m just of the opinion that there isn’t any single skill that every one should even attempt to master, except exactly mastering themselves.
Even the most basic things like cooking or something… not everyone needs to try to master it.
I just can’t come up with anything everyone should even attempt to master. I can think of several you should know the rough basics of. Like first aid. But there’s literally no point in trying to “master it”, unless you’re actually going to work in medicine.
Like I don’t disagree or judge in anything way. I just can’t think of any.
How to use a lathe, compliment someone without expecting anything in return, and blend in on a city street.
