• abbadon420@lemm.ee
      9·
      7 days ago

      It’s a constant fear of mine. That I’m not doing well enough. I actually lie awake at nights and that’s not something I normally do. But I know that I can’t do more than my best, I’ll make plenty mistakes, but so did my parents and I turned out fine. As long as you give all the love and support that you can. They’ll be fine. There’s not much else you can do, honestly, they’ll have to find their own way anyhow

    • Twitchy1@lemmy.dbzer0.com
      8·
      6 days ago

      They fuck you up, your mum and dad. They may not mean to, but they do. They fill you with the faults they had And add some extra, just for you.

      But they were fucked up in their turn By fools in old-style hats and coats, Who half the time were soppy-stern And half at one another’s throats.

      Man hands on misery to man. It deepens like a coastal shelf. Get out as early as you can, And don’t have any kids yourself.

      -Philip Larkin

      • roofuskit@lemmy.worldEnglish
        31·
        6 days ago

        The most depressing pessimistic view of humanity ever penned. In a nutshell, “You can only make things worse, kill yourself.”

            • Katrisia@lemm.ee
              1·
              6 days ago

              Oh! The first part can be about suicide, you’re right. The second part reminds me of antinatalism, and I think it makes sense for breaking the cycle described.

        • Twitchy1@lemmy.dbzer0.com
          1·
          5 days ago

          I agree with Katrisia, it’s a never ending cycle. It’s also an exercise in futility though, Too many uncontrollable variables.

          As a son… I see it as my parents probably tried to improve what their parents did and it may not have turned out how they would have wanted the intention was good. I hope my kids will also see that even though it wasn’t perfect I tried to improve what my parents had done. The last line I hope some people take seriously. Enjoy your life without kids, parenting is difficult and will bring a life of hardships… But it’s worth it if you put in the effort as long as you know you can’t make the perfect person. No changing your mind once you start. If you do go out for milk and never come back then the poem was true.

  • FartsWithAnAccent@fedia.io
    12·
    7 days ago

    Appalachian Trail for sure, I only did a couple sections but I am absolutely going again if I can. One day I’d like to actually do the whole thing but I just don’t have the time.

    • SocialMediaRefugee@lemmy.world
      3·
      7 days ago

      I did the 100 Mile Wilderness in Maine. It was an epic hike. I know the sections in VT and NH like the back of my hand. Miss them since I’ve moved.

    • eatthecake@lemmy.world
      3·
      7 days ago

      26 years ago I felt inexplicable happiness for 2 solid hours. Turned out to be PMS. I still remember that feeling and have never had it again.

  • sylver_dragon@lemmy.worldEnglish
    17·
    7 days ago

    Flying with my father. Flying was his passion and I only ever got to ride with him once. Sadly, he passed several years ago and I’ll never get to go up with him again.

  • grasshopper_mouse@lemmy.world
    11·
    6 days ago

    There’s a camaraderie with the other soldiers on your platoon that happens when you’re in the military that I’ve never been able to feel with any other group of people since I got out. I would really like to be able to experience that again, but minus the war part.

    • corsicanguppy@lemmy.caEnglish
      3·
      6 days ago

      Blood of the covenant. I hear ya. Even that one guy or two who was an absolute dick, it’s kinda all okay now.

    • win95@lemmy.zipEnglish
      3·
      6 days ago

      Can you explain how it was a positive experience? Ive never heard that and I personally HATE it

      • Danitos@reddthat.com
        3·
        6 days ago

        It felt like an intriguing mixture of something a bit terrifying, but also me wanting to enjoy the moment.

    • Lag@lemmy.world
      3·
      6 days ago

      It’s also a good gateway to lucid dreaming. I was into it for a while and using sleep paralysis is one of the techniques where you rest your body but try to keep your mind awake.

      • Danitos@reddthat.com
        3·
        6 days ago

        Yeap. It felt like an intriguing mixture of something a bit terrifying, but also me wanting to enjoy the moment.

    • sem@lemmy.blahaj.zone
      4·
      7 days ago

      I also experienced it once but never again please I’ve never had that kind of fear before or since

    • MrsDoyle@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
      4·
      6 days ago

      Everyone has sleep paralysis every time they dream. It’s a mechanism that stops you acting out your dreams. What happens occasionally is that you come out of the dream state enough to become aware of being paralysed. You’re not awake, so your unconscious mind is grappling with the horror of paralysis.

      My own experiences were nightmares where I was being threatened by an unseen figure, but couldn’t move to escape. I had a lot of them, some really horrible. Then I read an article with the above explanation, and I haven’t had one since. It was like once my unconscious knew what was going on, it stopped freaking out.

    • FurtiveFugitive@lemm.ee
      5·
      6 days ago

      Jeebus Christ no. As someone who has had occasional sleep paralysis since college… Just no. Even though I finally fully understand it and what triggers it, it sucks every time.

  • Archmage Azor@lemmy.world
    9·
    6 days ago

    I wanna smoke weed again. I did it one time in school when I got hold of a dealer. Didn’t do it again, dunno why. Now I don’t know any dealers.