• absGeekNZ@lemmy.nz
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    9 hours ago

    How old are you?

    This reminds me of me, in my teens and early 20’s.

    I’m in my 40’s now, a lot of that attitude is borne out of arrogance. Judging others by your ability,is neither fair or productive, it is also a recipe for continuous disappointment.

    Being continually disappointed, will fuck up your mental health. After a certain point, the only person to compare against is your past self. Comparing to others is a excellent method for robbing yourself of any joy or fulfillment.

    I mainly get annoyed, when others don’t live up to their own potential; when they offload decisions onto me, that they are more than capable of on their own.

    If you really are that smart, I recommend reading philosophy, I’m partial to the Stoic’s, but there’s a lot of good stuff out there.

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      6 hours ago

      Judging others by your ability,is neither fair or productive, it is also a recipe for continuous disappointment.

      I’m not so much judging them as bemoaning my own loneliness. To be fair, I’ve also done a good amount of judging, but that isn’t what I’m referring to here.

      I’m just talking about companionship. Stimulation. Someone to play board games with, or argue about whether water is wet with.

      I had a real group of peers in college. I was surrounded by people smarter than me, and it was great. I actually had to work hard to win games against them, had to actually apply myself to avoid failing my classes, and they would actually debate like they knew what they were doing. I miss it.

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        3 hours ago

        I understand. More than you realise.

        Few people are interested in what I’m interested in, but companionship is not always about our interests.

        Sometimes, you just need to be in the same place as others. Doing similar things. No conversion required.

        Go find a local planting day, plant a tree or ten.

        Most people don’t want a debate, they want pleasant conversation.