I have so many things I want to do but just can’t. Play a video game, read a book, take dog for walk, build a gadget I bought parts for, finish writing a song, finish building a computer… But no, I just sit there stuck. How do I get unstuck?

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    Tried it, not a great success… The only result is making me not want whatever was chosen anymore.

    • Movie A or movie B?
    • I can’t decide… I want to watch both…
    • Lets flip a coin.
    • The coin says movie A.
    • I don’t want movie A anymore. Movie B it is then.
    • Wait maybe the coin is using reverse psychology on me… I should pick movie C that wasn’t in the list just to be safe.

    My brain has this awful tendency of going “I could have done it a minute ago but now that someone else told me to I can’t anymore”

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      If you flip a coin and don’t like the answer that just means you already decided but didn’t realize you had decided.

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        No it’s really that the result feels like a decision imposed on me and my brain can’t deal with that… It’s the same if I start to do something I want, then someone calls to tell me to do it and now I can’t do it anymore. Not sure if it’s PDA or something else, but it’s really annoying, especially in combination with AuDHD.

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          Was just about to suggest it might be PDA. I have a bit of that and it is rather annoying. Some techniques ive used go combat this:

          • challenge yourself. Or someone else challenge you to do a thing. “I bet you can’t do x.”
          • give yourself a couple choices that lead to the same result and then just lick one. This one can be tough if im feeling indecisive.

          Neither are perfect but they do help sometimes.

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            Nice suggestions, thanks!

            Challenges usually get the opposite reaction than demands for me, I can’t even count all the stuff I’ve done because of it. Maybe self (not-)imposed challenges would work? I’ll need to give it a try. Though challenges also have their problems, like picking the most stupid or pointless ideas because I was advised not to do it. I think there’s a correlation between how stupid and pointless an idea is and how quickly my brain latches onto in 😅