My parents were successful seemingly effortlessly. My dad has dyslexia, but is a retired math professor. He reads a lot, if not a lot slower than the rest of my family. My mom an engineer.
I’m an engineer. I can’t connect the possibility of being disabled to my career. It’s not acceptable socially, or professionally. There are no real safety nets. No drugs will make my day any easier. I can’t undo psychological damage done to me. But I need to survive. I need to make sure my kid survives. Disability is not an option. It’s just not, not for me.
If the rest of you want to be disabled fine. But don’t include me.
Totally fair, my friend. You do you, but know that from the outside looking in, it seems like you’re putting a lot of additional pressure on yourself to reach “perfection”. Only you can know if this approach is working for you, regardless of the various labels society is trying on at this time.
I saw you got a lot of downvotes, but to me you are asking the same questions as the rest of us. If your experience is downvoted, don’t worry about it. These things are totally subjective, nuanced to talk about, and there isn’t 1 single “correct” universal answer.
I personally benefitted from listening to the Anxious Overachiever podcast, which helped me realise that people in positions I percieve to be successful are struggling as hard as I do sometimes.
I appreciate you sharing your experience and broadening the discussion 🙂
I made my earlier comment because you said that it isn’t a disability because there’s medication for it. I’d like to add more to it if you feel like reading.
There is a spectrum for ADHD, and many kids who were diagnosed with it grow up to be functioning adults who don’t need medication. There are also many children diagnosed with ADHD who grow up and can’t function in society.
It’s a little different when we’re diagnosed as adults. Some people just wonder why they do some things differently than their peers, but they aren’t disadvantaged because they are neuro divergent. Others similarly choose to use support from family, friends, and therapists to develop coping skills because they are on the more mild end of the spectrum.
I am not part of those groups. I was diagnosed at 35 because I’ve had an extremely difficult life, and it mostly boils down to ADHD. As soon as I was medicated, I was able to start working towards my goals, and I’ve earned a few achievements that I’ve always wanted. The motivation was there, but my ADHD symptoms were so severe that I was at a disadvantage. I dont want to be disabled, but that’s the language available to me for my situation
I won’t disagree with that denialism.
My parents were successful seemingly effortlessly. My dad has dyslexia, but is a retired math professor. He reads a lot, if not a lot slower than the rest of my family. My mom an engineer.
I’m an engineer. I can’t connect the possibility of being disabled to my career. It’s not acceptable socially, or professionally. There are no real safety nets. No drugs will make my day any easier. I can’t undo psychological damage done to me. But I need to survive. I need to make sure my kid survives. Disability is not an option. It’s just not, not for me.
If the rest of you want to be disabled fine. But don’t include me.
Totally fair, my friend. You do you, but know that from the outside looking in, it seems like you’re putting a lot of additional pressure on yourself to reach “perfection”. Only you can know if this approach is working for you, regardless of the various labels society is trying on at this time.
I saw you got a lot of downvotes, but to me you are asking the same questions as the rest of us. If your experience is downvoted, don’t worry about it. These things are totally subjective, nuanced to talk about, and there isn’t 1 single “correct” universal answer. I personally benefitted from listening to the Anxious Overachiever podcast, which helped me realise that people in positions I percieve to be successful are struggling as hard as I do sometimes.
I appreciate you sharing your experience and broadening the discussion 🙂
Thanks I’ll check it out. That… Sort of sounds exactly like what I need
I made my earlier comment because you said that it isn’t a disability because there’s medication for it. I’d like to add more to it if you feel like reading.
There is a spectrum for ADHD, and many kids who were diagnosed with it grow up to be functioning adults who don’t need medication. There are also many children diagnosed with ADHD who grow up and can’t function in society.
It’s a little different when we’re diagnosed as adults. Some people just wonder why they do some things differently than their peers, but they aren’t disadvantaged because they are neuro divergent. Others similarly choose to use support from family, friends, and therapists to develop coping skills because they are on the more mild end of the spectrum.
I am not part of those groups. I was diagnosed at 35 because I’ve had an extremely difficult life, and it mostly boils down to ADHD. As soon as I was medicated, I was able to start working towards my goals, and I’ve earned a few achievements that I’ve always wanted. The motivation was there, but my ADHD symptoms were so severe that I was at a disadvantage. I dont want to be disabled, but that’s the language available to me for my situation