cross-posted from: https://linux.community/post/3368394
and how do you deflect prying questions about you and limit these rituals to 2 minutes instead of wasting 30 minutes?
asking as somebody who, if not on the spectrum, is socially awkward, likes solitude, boundaries and to be left alone (to do the job)
I still believe none of your answers is going to help me because neurotypical solutions don’t work for me but I have nothing to lose with this question.
State that you don’t like prying questions. tell them you don’t like to talk about yourself. If they asked those types of questions for the second time remind them. if they asked those types of questions for the third time remind them with a stronger tone. and if they asked those questions for the forth time give them a cold look of silence. they may be offended in short term. but in the long you will have more respect.
Not respect, they’ll just leave you alone, for other reasons (and probably dislike you too). But if that’s what OP wants, he can easily have it.
does this also work with women? most nurses I work with are women and are simply incapable of being silent more than 2 minutes.
they WILL be offended and proceed to furiously talk behind my back and destroy my credibility
This is not a good look, friend
To be honest this doesn’t sound like a good workplace. As a teacher at my school, we just get on with the job and the last 50 minutes you can join in conversation or just get on with something else. When a teacher is busy with something (even if they’re reading) we don’t interrupt them except if someone has a school related question they can answer.
Well if you do this at least you peaceful stated what you don’t like. As for this
they didn’t even build your credit in first place to destroy it later. Each person credibility is built by themselves by what deeds they do. and credibility can only be destroyed by one self by doing harmful deeds. plus as you said they talk about meaningless, worthless things so don’t focus on what they talk behind you. and where focus goes, energy follows, so focus on learning meaningful things.