Anyone new that comes into my life, even if they become my “friends” or hell, even a girlfriend, I couldn’t care less about them and don’t value them. If they have kids, I don’t care about their well-being either. Basically I could not give less of a fuck about anyone. I don’t care about my friends or family members at all. If they are sick, I don’t care; if they die, I don’t care. It’s not even that I don’t “like” them; it’s more apathy than anything else. Don’t care whether they live or die. They don’t care about their children or their well-being. Here are my “emotions” towards people. I either tolerate you, or I’m purely apathetic. Or I just straight up don’t like you.
But I’m going to be in more social situations around people I hang out with – friends, family, etc. – and I need to fake like I care about them.
How do I do that?
Caring for someone is an action. Take time to do things for people, to learn about them. Block out time in your day to think about what is happening in your long and the people in it. Some people refer to this as prayer, reflection, or meditation. Start with 10 minutes 3x a week to truly do nothing but think.
I’m not asking you to develop an emotion, but the time you spend on this and the things you do would be considered caring.