Anyone new that comes into my life, even if they become my “friends” or hell, even a girlfriend, I couldn’t care less about them and don’t value them. If they have kids, I don’t care about their well-being either. Basically I could not give less of a fuck about anyone. I don’t care about my friends or family members at all. If they are sick, I don’t care; if they die, I don’t care. It’s not even that I don’t “like” them; it’s more apathy than anything else. Don’t care whether they live or die. They don’t care about their children or their well-being. Here are my “emotions” towards people. I either tolerate you, or I’m purely apathetic. Or I just straight up don’t like you.
But I’m going to be in more social situations around people I hang out with – friends, family, etc. – and I need to fake like I care about them.
How do I do that?
Have you read about “mirror neuron”?
We learn sympathy by mimicking. With practice, you can actually learn sympathy. Simply by copying “pretending to care”, you will eventually become caring.
It is how we learn. We learn by observing and copying.
Try to making your smile and you will feel happier. Eventually you will feel happier for no reason.
Same with sympathy. Try to care about people simply by copying others. You will care about others just by “caring”.
Young children, girls and women learn from their caretakers, sisters and mother’s how to take care of babies. They learn by observing and practicing. As you are mirroring the acts, your neuron actually fire the same signal as if you are taking care the infants.
Just by copying the act of sympathy, your mirror neuron will fire the signal for sympathy. Eventually you will find yourself care for others. The same signal is used in your brain. You don’t need to force yourself.
Same as racism and hatred. If you copy racists, you will become a racist. If you copy hateful behaviors, you will become a hateful person.