Growing up I never heard anything about not fucking people against their will: heard a lot about keeping my legs closed and deserving negative consequences from sex
In fairness, nobody specifically told me not to kill other folk or set people’s houses on fire or sexually harass folk. What I did have drilled in to me was an idea of mutual respect; personal boundaries; how not to be a complete dickhead (some may say I’ve not learned much at all about that bit); and how to coexist with others to make everyone’s day that little bit easier, regardless of their gender identity.
I can only assume those basic life lessons are either not being driven home as strongly as they should be in modern life; or there’s outside influences drowning out those voices.
I’m sorry to hear that you had some arsehole giving you such poor life “advice” though. I hope it hasn’t defined or shaped your values of intimacy. It’s yet another erosion of (what I’m assuming) are women’s rights from an early age, and it’s bang out of order.
Hyperbole, surely.
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Sorry to break it to you
They absolutely do not, unless you start playing with what, ‘consensual’ means.
grape
Stop self-censoring for fuck’s sake
but the kinds of people who grape others generally don’t feel shame
I think this is probably not true.
the primary tool society uses to respond to grape, assault, prison, ostracizing or murder is, so like, so what is there less shame?
Those tools aren’t equally available to everyone, they are expressions of power, which some people have access to more than others.
