Hear me out:

The only, absolutely only reason why people don’t generally marry on the first date is to figure out whether they DON’T fit together.

So if you manage to figure out that the relationship is not going to work out before you get into real commitments (kids, mortgage, …) you successfully avoided trouble.

I see it so often that people think that dating is already a strong commitment and that ending a dead-end relationship is a failure.

There is no shame in realizing the relationship is going nowhere and ending it.

  • chonglibloodsport@lemmy.world
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    19 hours ago

    Every relationship would work out if not for all the red flags. It’s the Anna Karenina principle:

    All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.

    This applies to all kinds of situations where success depends on avoiding a wide variety of critical failures, leaving a pretty narrow space of variation among the successes. Rocket launches are another nice example!