I’m 23 years old, but I look 14. I always looked younger than my age, even when I was in school. I’m 167 cm, which is the standard female height where I live, so I guess it’s my face, something with the shape of the bones, I dont know. I am sincerely convinced that this is the main reason why men have never approached me. I’m also quite socially awkward and not very pretty, but that’s usually not a problem for other girls, so I think it all comes down to my child-like features. I’ve never seen men look at me with desire, or that they’ve ever been shy when talking to me. I feel completely desexualized and lonely and I suffer so much because of it. This problem sounds so stupid and absurd, but that’s what I’m dealing with… At the very least, it’s probably worth being glad that men aren’t so attracted to childish features in reality…

Sorry if this post is too messy, I don’t feel well while I’m writing this.

  • Spacehooks@reddthat.comEnglish
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    19 hours ago

    Less advise and more on experiences of others in know in similar boat.

    First off Looking younger makes you feel great as you get older. Especially since ppl spend tons on trying to look younger.

    Keep in mind men can be afraid to approach women for many reasons. my female friends were rarely hit on by decent men the major city we lived in. even the one with perfect anime proportions.

    Mom’s is this short, thin, and looked young but She married 5x before her 40s. I caught her a few times online dating and 1 of the husbands said it was social media.

    Coworker ~180cm with child like proportions used online dating. Was too successful and couldn’t respond to everyone. Another ~150cm married someone she met through family.

    SIL has it worst since she is just like the others but dancer body and child voice which is personally off-putting. Like Literally sounds the same as when she was 10. She was vocal about her frustrations getting a man and dressed poorly/older, gave herself bags under eyes and tattoos in efforts to age herself up. Totally fruitless efforts because Ultimately she ending up dating a nice tech guy from university that she decided to give a chance to.

    Whatever you do don’t sell yourself short or doubt yourself. I watched too many friends date questionable males because they felt they had to settle. Dont be like my coworker with makeup smeered from tears in morning because you feel this is best you can do or my mom with a new bloke every year.