I’m 23 years old, but I look 14. I always looked younger than my age, even when I was in school. I’m 167 cm, which is the standard female height where I live, so I guess it’s my face, something with the shape of the bones, I dont know. I am sincerely convinced that this is the main reason why men have never approached me. I’m also quite socially awkward and not very pretty, but that’s usually not a problem for other girls, so I think it all comes down to my child-like features. I’ve never seen men look at me with desire, or that they’ve ever been shy when talking to me. I feel completely desexualized and lonely and I suffer so much because of it. This problem sounds so stupid and absurd, but that’s what I’m dealing with… At the very least, it’s probably worth being glad that men aren’t so attracted to childish features in reality…

Sorry if this post is too messy, I don’t feel well while I’m writing this.

  • Lumidaub@feddit.org
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    12 hours ago

    I can’t give you any practical advice but I can tell you that I’m in a similar boat where I’m constantly assumed to be about 10-15 years younger than I am. Sounds like exactly what the stereotypical woman wants, right? It sucks ass.

    Some years ago my (then bf and now) husband and I were in a bookshop to get some manga and they had a variety of promotional gifts they were handing out. He got a lighter. The salesperson then throws a look in my direction while already grabbing a thing for me, does a very short double-take, and hands me a cute fan with some generic manga motives on it, all the while slight confusion on her face. She clearly had thought I was his daughter and only had second thoughts after looking at me more closely. Probably didn’t help that he had paid. He’s all of 18 months older than me btw.

    We still laugh about it. But really, it’s annoying because people underestimate you and your life experience. I get told that I’m still so very young, I have time to figure out my shit, and I honestly never know how to react.

    Btw, my husband and I met on the internet. Not a dating thing but on a forum that we both happened to use.