Does Lemmy or PieFed have anything similar to the Reddit R4R communities who want to connect people in a local area for friendship? And are there anything like the dating subreddits? Or even the cheater ones? Or like marriedbutchatting?
Not to my knowledge. Lemmy/Piefed/etc might be a wee bit small to justify groups like that, but you can always make your own community!
I hadn’t really used Reddit much until fairly recently if anything other than checking some art subreddits or find some answers. I didn’t even know there were porn on there, shows how little I explored it. There’s a bunch of terminology that is just expected users know without any sort of glossary. One of those was R4R, which I had to Google.
I like the idea behind a community (I assume that is what c/ stands for) which is focused on connecting people in specific local areas, be it to organise D&D tournaments, chess matches or as is my interest, photo meetups, exercise, cycling walking groups.
But the same applies to dating. I didn’t know those existed on Reddit either until recently, as Reddit seems ill-suited for it. But let’s say a singles event around a pub meetup, movie meetup, exercise meetup or whatever.
From looking superficially, it seems the R4R<Location> subreddits have become for hookups, which is ok if separated from the other things.
So for instance if I was to start a community for say a local calisthenics community for Sydney where I’m from, what might you call it? Is there a code word like R4R<location> that people could search for, or are there no conventions yet?
The fact that the Lemmmy/PieFed community (not sure what the collective term is) is still small is OK, since you have to start somewhere; it’s a catch-22, if there isn’t a community, they won’t come, and hence you don’t build a community. So starting something local so when they come looking they will have somewhere to post their interests is a start.
No. Thank god.
People are awful enough about politics and their hobbies. When you add sex to the mix they get even more insane and nasty.
I was a part of some dating subreddits years ago and they was so much crazy drama and mods were would trade sexual favors for subreddit influence. There was also a lot of doxxing and other crazy stuff.
That always happens when things scale up, be it Facebook or Twitter. It starts out small and niche with a few geeky people who know and care about the tech, but when it becomes more popular, you get a much broader audience with broader opinions, and the anonymity provided by the service brings the assholes and bullies out, and when truly popular, even those just interested in being seen and promoting whatever they’re selling.
The geeky people who care about tech usually are the assholes and the bullies who are angry the ‘normies’ are using their tech that they made for themselves.
I agree with you about reddit, but you’re really making the fedi sound a lot cooler than it actually is.
it’s not cool to me, but if i was linux using furry queer person, I’d be in heaven.
A very bleak view, but I can see how that might be right, given what is happening in the US, seemingly spurned on by Silicon Valley social media techies pushing for some sort of neo-Nazi utopia, not always out of ideology, but pure commercial greed, because feeding conflict and controversy is good for the engagement, just as TV trashy “reality TV” shows have skewed heavily towards scripted bitchy clashes on dating, cooking, renovation and everything else which they could easily control, but purposefully select candidates to create clashes, and choose a villain who will only be presented in a bad light because some people love having someone to hate.
yes. it’s affected my life and i have lost many friends who have gone down the rabbit hole insanity of greed and violence and we stopped interacting because i was not going down that hole with them.
it sucks.
